Post # 1
Do you include your FMIL into the hair and makeup package or not? Because I thought it was customary for the MIL to just do it herself. I mean obviously I’m including my BM’s and my mom, but what about the MIL?
Post # 3
I am getting dressed with my bridesmaids and my mom. I’m sure FMIL will be around during this (as FSIL is in the wedding) but unless she specifically asks (or you ask her) then you don’t need to include her.
Post # 4
I’m including mine just because she is going to be with us the whole time and I felt like it would be sort of awkward/sad if I didn’t, especially since one of her daughters is a bridesmaid! But I also have a very good relationship with her and she’s been so laidback and supportive throughout the whole planning process, so I really want to make her feel included and special on the day. But we are also going to a salon rather than having people come do our hair on location, so it wasn’t as much $$ to just tack her on (also she has short hair ).
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
I had a very small wedding (no wedding party; ie. no bridesmaids), so I opted to “splurge” and pay for my mom and my MIL to get their hair and make-up professionally done. My MIL loooooved it. And it guaranteed that everyone looked their best in photos. ;o)
Note: My MIL spent more time with me on my wedding day than my mom did.
Post # 6
I think it depends on your relationship with her. Do you have any FSIL’s and are you having any of her daughters in the wedding? If you are close it can’t hurt to put the offer out there to make her feel included but I don’t think it’s expected.
I personally am not, but my FMIL do not have a good relationship so it would just be awkward if she was with me that morning.
Post # 7
I won’t be including her but that’s because she didn’t get ready with her other daughter in law before her wedding this past january.
Post # 8
Yeah, no future SIL’s. Luckily my FI only has brothers…lol
I have a good relationship with my MIL, and fortunately I’m getting use to her comments like, “Go to church,” and “When are you gonna give me a grandchild?”, and the famous, “Get rid of your dog. It’s not healthy to have one when you’re married and starting to have kids.” – (she’s old school when it comes to animals)LOL yup I’ve gotten really use to it.
Well I asked my MIL if she was gonna get her hair and makeup done herself and she said …”Umm…” And then she gave me this look like, this is the part where you offer…So I just asked her if she wanted to be included in the package with my mom and BM’s. She said yes, and then told me, not asked, that the grandmother also needed to get her hair and makeup done as well. There’s another $160 that I have to put.
I feel like my MIL doesn’t really think about how things are getting paid for. I mean my FI’s parents aren’t contributing anything to the wedding and so I feel a bit resentful that she just assumes that I have all this money piled up and can spend any which way I wanted to. She didn’t say thank you or anything. She just assumes that it’s getting paid for, clearly not from her pocket..I don’t know. It just upsets me when people expect you to pay for stuff when you’re already on a tight budget.
Post # 9
We did include my MIL in our makeup/hair package. I figured all the moms should get equal treatment since she will also be my mom…I also included my hubby’s step mother (my step MIL?).
Both were thrilled to be included.
Post # 10
I didn’t, but only b/c we all went to get our hair done together and basically paid for our own. My MIL didn’t really contribute much to our wedding, so I figured that it wouldn’t be terrible if I didn’t pay for her hair. My mom paid for my hair for me and a friend did my makeup, so it’s not like I was paying for anyone else anyway.
But, if you’re including everyone and your MIL is getting her hair done at the same place, I don’t think it would be a bad thing to include her in paying. It’s totally up to you though in how much you want to spend.
Post # 11
So lucky you have no FSIL’s LOL. I think pushing for you to pay for the grandmothers is taking it a little too far. Since it is on your dime you should be able to decide who you can afford to pay for. Since my guess is the probably have short hair and don’t wear as much makeup, do you think you can get a lower price for the grandmothers?
Post # 12
My MIL came to my hotel suite and got her hair and make up down just like everyone else did.. but she paid for herself. I certainly don’t think you should be expected to pay for your FMIL and your FGrandmaIL.. that’s ridiculous.
@mssushi.. my MIL spent more time with me on my wedding day than my mom did too!
Post # 13
thank you so much for your comments!! I really do appreciate them. Your comments have definitely helped me. Thank you so much!