Post # 1
Long story short: I had a hamster pass away in January, and I was absolutely obsessed with the little thing. I kept all his stuff anticipating I’d get another. SO and I got an apartment together in May. This afternoon, I saw that the Humane Society got 13 baby hamsters that are only 29 days old. I fell in love with one of them on their website and want to run down tomorrow and adopt him. However, when I mentioned it to SO, he was blunt in saying “no animals.”
I feel heartbroken because I am an animal lover, and I would only adopt my pets, so to have babies come in to a shelter is exceptionally rare. Our last hamster was not a lot of work and he didnt take up much space, and I just wish I knew more about his opposition. To be fair, I brought home 4 kittens to foster who were going to be put to sleep and they go up for adoption next week, and SO was not happy. I did that without discussing it with him first. He loves the cats now, but I still feel guilty for not coming to him first.
I am really just looking to vent. Its hard valuing something so highly and having a partner who doesnt see the value in it.
Post # 2
Meglin: I don’t think it isn’t that he doesn’t see the value but he perhaps has concerns regarding the apartment rules (not sure what yours say but our last place wouldn’t even let us have a goldfish), about costs, about time and the amount available to look after them.
It may also be with 4 cats in the house currently he feels there are too many animals… He might not like hamsters (I love animals but hamsters hate me so nope there wont be one in my house ever – I look after a family’s hamster every years for 5 years when they went away, cleaned its cage, fed it, changed its water etc and it bit me every single time I went near it without me doing anything.
You need to have a chat and see why he objects, I don’t blame him in a way, I love animals but if you are going to foster a lot he might object to other animals and I get that. I desperately want a dog but dh and I have decided to hold off until the repairs on our house are complete so we don’t stress a puppy out with tons of strangers for weeks… There are many I have fallen for on shelter websites but I have to wait because it isn’t the right time. Maybe he feels it isn’t the right time for some reason…
Post # 3
Meglin: Another thought, have you considered that he might feel left out of the decision again. Yes you are asking him but you have chosen and you want a pet. You didn’t discuss with him beforehand if he would like to help choose the nexxt pet etc and after the cat issue he may feel this is going in the direction of being yours in the shared home and will have no say…