Post # 1
I’m finally officially engaged (ahh!!! so much happiness!!!)
But I’m so conflicted on where to have the wedding! I was originally considering doing a semi-destination wedding (at a location in between my family and FI (!!)’s family as they live on opposite sides of the continent). If we did this, I could do the wedding for about 250 ppl in the backyard of my parent’s vacation home. (Truthfully, this is what I would prefer).
BUT, It is traditional for our culture to have the wedding in the bride’s hometown, and my dad has made it no secret that he prefers this (and he will be footing most of the bill of the wedding). However, if we have the wedding at home, I will likely have over 6 or 700 people! (There’s no way around this, really, I have crunched it every which way, and my dad is very involved in the community here and would rather die than not extend invites to all the zillion people he knows and who would love to come… and seeing as he’s paying for it, how could I deny him the joy of having all these people see his only daughter get married?!)
Is there anyway to make a ginormous wedding more intimate? How can I still make it fun and not feel like a convention?
Post # 3
That’s, um, a lot of people. A lot will depend on your venue, I think. Even a massive hotel ballroom can feel intimate if the lights are low and candles are flickering.
Post # 4
I’m in the same boat. We will literally have a gazillion people at my wedding. One thing my wedding coordinator recommended which our venue is perfect for, is sectioning off areas and trying to avoid (if possible) a giant room. We have a lounge area, cocktail area, “quiet” area if you will, and different areas/sections. Also we are doing a lot of light decor to create a more intimate mood. Basically there will be a soft blue/purple glow (i think those are my colors, could change). We are also going to “table dance” during dinner we will go to every table for apx. 5 min and talk to guests, my dad and FIL’s plan on doing the same thing. Also our reception is LONG! Which allows for more time with people.
Post # 5
We had 700 people at our wedding. I know most bees wouldn’t get this, but it actually did feel very intimate because everyone there knew and loved us a lot! My father-in-law is the head pastor of a large-ish church, and that’s where my husband grew up. I’ve become part of the church family over the last 4 years of dating my husband, and they welcomed me and poured out their love for me. On our wedding day, I just had the biggest smile on my face looking out at everyone. You could just feel the love and support and that made it intimate even though there were a lot of people.
We had our ceremony and reception at the church, which added to the intimacy. The reception was in the fellowship hall, and we piped and draped around the perimeter of the room, which gave it an intimate feel as well. (This was a gift from a congregation member). We also basically squeezed as many tables as possible in the room, so it felt pretty cozy, and when it came time to dance, the dance floor was absolutely packed the whole time! I think it’s absolutely possible to have 700 people at your wedding and have it feel cozy and intimate, because that’s exactly what I felt at mine.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Congrats on your engagement! I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding that large (even the “big” Pakistani weddings I’ve attended were still “only” 300 people), but I would imagine that the lighting/decor of the room would have a big impact on a feeling of intimate-ness. If it looks like a brightly lit hotel conference room, it will feel that way. I’d invest in some good lighting and linens to help!
Post # 7
Agree that lighting and decor are very important to an intimate feeling. But mostly I think intimacy will come from the feeling of love. A business convention doesn’t feel intimate because you don’t know or care about really any of the other people there; at your wedding it will feel intimate because everyone will be there because they love you and the family you come from.
Post # 8
Thanks guys… this makes me feel so much better! Lighting etc. is a good point actually. I’m also hoping to have a very fluid, movement between sections of the room and people wandering in and out so hopefully it won’t feel so sterile and “seated” if you know what I mean. I will know almost everyone, and many of these people have seen me grow up. I just suddenly felt nervous that it would all be terrible haha.
Post # 9
I agree with previous posters , the lighting and setting of the room and table arrangement can make all the difference