Weddingbee boards

I'm got a dose of this last night. FMIL was over and asking about what was going on with the wedding since we hadn't really caught up in a while. She's lovely and I adore her, let's get that out of the way, BUT she's divorced from FFIL (who has remarried ages ago) and it seems to be the prime focus of her life. We were talking about flowers and I mentioned these will be the corsages you and my  mom get, FFIL's wife will get a small wrist corsage. Her face was twisted in horror. Well hello, she is married to my FFIL! I may not love her but I have to get her a stupid corsage! Then we were talking about the ceremony. Immediately she wants to know where FFIL and his wife are sitting. I don't frigging know. I don't frigging care. I'm going to be standing up at the front saying my vows, the rest of you can be standing on your heads in the back of the room for all I'll probably notice!!!

Thankfully she hasn't pulled this kind of stuff too much with us, but I made it clear at the very start (point blank to her) that if there were any problems, people were to call me. Don't call FI and cry to him. He works hard. He's put up with his parents divorce and lingering issues his whole life, give the guy a break and let him enjoy being engaged. All everyone has to do is sit and breathe the same air for 8 hours one day. They don't have to hold hands, they don't have to be BFFs by the end of it. Just shut up, smile and be happy for FI and I. If you can't do that, don't come. We don't want people there who aren't genuinely happy for us and who can't focus on us for one day. It may seem short and somewhat rude, but I don't really care. No matter what you're going to do, you're not going to make everyone happy. It's your wedding, you need to do what makes you and your FI happy. It's your day!!!

My mom has criticized me a few times about having my wedding in a tent. She thinks it's like a sieve and it's going to rain and we'll all be wet and miserable. She also thinks my caterer is going to break his wrist and we'll now all be hungry, wet and miserable. I told her no matter what she says, I'm not getting married on a golf course or at a hotel to make her happy. This is what FI and I want, it's our wedding, we're paying for it, so she's just going to have to be okay with it. End of story.

If you run around trying to make the rest of the world happy you're going to make yourself miserable. You'll end up with a wedding that's not representative of you and your FI, just footnotes of what family and friends think or wish they had had at their wedding. How is that special or meaningful for you? Do what you have wished and dreamed for all these years, you won't regret it.

Woah that was long. Sorry. I think I needed to vent a little too, LOL!

When we got engaged, all my married girlfriends told me "oh just you wait, this is when all the crazies come out of the woodwork..." It's true. People you thought were totally normal and rational go bonkers on you!!! Oh the stories I could tell you.... LOL! I have one BM who's so down to earth and super logical though, I can vent to her about anything. She'll listen, shake her head, and then move on. She keeps me very grounded which is really nice. Plus I know that if I need her help with wedding related stuff she'll give me good, unbiased advice/opinions and help me do whatever needs be. My sister/MOH is also really helpful but we're very different people (and she's given me a few WTF?! moments along the way), so sometimes it's easier for me to go to this other BM, LOL! If you have one of those girls, definitely use the resource and buy her a nice present at the end ;)