(Closed) Making friends….

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I recommend going places and doing things. I found new friends at places like music festivals, art shows, plays, etc. I met my FH while waiting in line at a play!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have much advice for you considering I am sorta in the same boat as you. DH and I have moved to a new area where I know absolutely no one. It is extremely difficult to make friends (even though I have always been great at it, even while I commuted to college) and when I meet new people it always just seems to be a dead end. I too never had this problem before. And when I go out with DH and his classmates its like they can’t be bothered to even try to make friends with me. I feel like such an outsider with them. They are all nice but not overly friendly. I think my super nice and friendly, yet shy demeanor isn’t something they like to hang out with. 

 

Just letting you know you are not alone. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I don’t have advice, but wanted to let you know that I totally get you!!  I’ve been trying to keep in touch with my very close friends from high school (live closer then a year ago, but still an hour away from both of them), but it kind of sucks when DH is going out and hanging with his friends and I’m at home by myself more often than not, or we’re with his friends.  

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

You’re definitely not alone. I was somewhat popular in high school. Everyone knew me at least. But I am the kind of person who has a couple best friends rather than a lot of semi-close friends.

When I came to university I was miserable because no matter what, I just didn’t click with anyone. I made one true friend my whole first year – and she’s now my roommate. Even in the years since then I’ve really only connected with a couple other people, and we don’t hang out that often.

I worry when I move to be with my SO after we marry that I’ll be back at square one with no friends in the area. Although it might help that I will be the weirdo American over there where he lives in England, so I might be able to chat it up with more people. But who knows if it will evolve into a lasting friendship…

Anyway, you’re so not the only one! In time though, I find that all of us eventually latch on to a few good friends. It may just take longer than we like!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I can’t make friends either. I have a hard time understanding how to make connections with people. Like, I can’t read social situations right, and it leads to awkwardness and makes me self-conscious and uncomfortable. I tend to avoid social situations, actually. It sucks because I want to have friends but I just have no idea how to go about it :/

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

See if they have meetup.com in your area!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I’m in the same situation. I moved a few states away shortly after highschool and my only friends in this state are wives/gfs of my SO’s friends. They are great but we don’t necessarily have much in common. I work from home so that’s pretty isolating too. I decided my goal for 2013 is to go to some meetup.com events! Have you looked into those? There are plenty of clubs in my area for girls only, with the intent of making new girlfriends. A friend of mine has made several great connections that way and become part of some new social circles in her new city.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am horrible at making friends, too! I only have two that I’ve had for 10 years and can’t seem to make anymore, LOL. I just can’t seem to find someone that can keep up with my randomness, sometimes :-/

Post # 16
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Newbee

You are not alone! I moved schools 3 times throughout my schooling and never had trouble making friends. Although when I started university many of my friends from my senior years of highschool fell out of touch with me as we were no longer at the same stages of our lives. I have found it gets harder as you move forward in your life and others don’t.

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