Post # 1
Why is it so hard?! FI and I moved to a new town after we graduated about 2.5 hours from where we went to college. In the beginning we found ourselves going back for many weekend trips to hang out with friends. Im tired of traveling back and forth, I would like to have friends where we live now! :Unfortunately I was not able to join the junior league due to work this year but I plan on it next fall. We go to bars etc a lot and sometimes strike up convos with other young couples arond up but nothing escalates…
How do you meet people after college
Post # 4
Best place to find constant friends is probably work or joining a local sports league. I know there’s a kickball league where my husband lives right now. When I move there next year we’ll probably join it.
Post # 5
I think after college, it’s more about meeting people through work/networking and also through specific activities. For example, do you like to cycle or have an interest in history? Maybe use meetup.com to join a group in your area.
It’s definitely not easy to make new friends after college/grad school because I think people really trim down their friends because they just get really busy.
Post # 6
I would suggest meeting people at work, volunteer somewhere with people your age (they will likely have similar interests it you’re volunteering somewhere you feel passoniate about), church if you’re interested (joining a small group), or joining a sports team.
I have also heard of people using services like meetup.com. I have never done that, but a girl I went to school with used it.
If your husband meets people at work too you may be able to become friends with their wives/girlfriends.
Post # 7
I met all my post-college friends through work!
DH met half of his through work, and the other half when he moved (for work) and ended up living near his college BFF! And met BFF’s friends (who were his work/college friends)
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
It’s so hard to make friends in the adult world! I moved from Seattle to Houston right after college, and I feel like just now after 3 years, I’m finally settling in and having the same quality of friendships I had before (in college and high school).
Some of my friends I met through my DH, because he was born and raised here. But honestly the best way to make a lot of friends is to start out making a friend or two, and hang out with all of their friends – we basically did that, ended up part of 2 social circles, and now all of us hang out in huge groups, and occasionally go on double- or triple-dates. If you make one new friend from work, and she ever invites you to do something with her other friends, always say yes!
Agree with the pp’s about doing organized activities, too – we’ve made friends through church, playing on intra-mural sports teams, and other stuff like that. We did a boot camp for awhile and made friends with some of the people who did it regularly.
Post # 9
ARGH! I agree this is so frustrating. I want to walk up to couples and hand this a note like wanna be couple friends ? CHeck yes, no or maybe…LOL. AHHH the simple things, OH WELL.
Post # 10
We moved from Indiana to Seattle almost 4 years ago. I’ve met tons of people on Meetup.com with similar interests and sometimes my husband tags along. They have groups for almost anything you can think of. Everyone usually meets in a group in public places so it seems ok from a safety standpoint. I guess of course just use your best judgement. 🙂 I haven’t had any issues so far.