Making girlfriends after college?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, especially if you are living & working in Chicago (assumption based on your user name) which is the friendliest city I’ve ever lived in as an adult!  I moved here from TX at 28 knowing literally 3 people from grad school & my brother in Champagne and made friends in a snap. What are your interests?  I met most of my friends through coed sports & my dance troupe.  

It’s summer and your new friends are everywhere!  If I wasn’t sitting inside with my hubby recovering from “wedding flu” & procrastinating on thank-yous today I’d be at a rooftop BBQ with my dance friends.  It’s your Chicago duty to put your computer away, find the nearest patio & talk to some fun people!

Oh and of my 8 bridesmaids last weekend two were my sisters, one I’ve known since 1st grade, two I met lifeguarding in college, two were friends from grad school and one was my roommate in Chicago who introduced me to my hubby ❤️

Post # 3
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just moved across the country and I’ve met a bunch of great girlfriends here through my running group and book club. Find a hobby and go with it!

Post # 4
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I met some of my best friends after college.  One of the women was someone I talked to at a company I was dealing with for about a year.  Then she got an expense account to take sales people out (ME!!) and so we met up.  Years later we’ll still best friends.  My SIL was a friend of a friend of a friend.  We all went out to a bar one night and we became bffs and a few years later she was introduced to my brother and now they are married.   Hang in there, sometimes you just meet people in weird places you just have to remember to be as open to meeting new people as you were when you went to college.

Post # 5
2064 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

chicagoworkinggirl:  my college went bankrupt and everyone left. all of a sudden my friends were gone. then it seemed i made a lot of friends threw my Boyfriends (DH now) brothers girls. but we would never click and those girls never stuck around. i found myself hanging with the boys. so one of these years when my BILs wife and i had a falling out. I joined (it took me a while and it was difficult to get into but i pushed) for a womans city league softball team. its huge here. try to find something liek that and next thing you know. that was 4 years ago and these girls are some of my best friends now. i also do city league volleyball, some of those girls are also joining volley.  some how i ended up hanging out with some friends from work, a traveling nurse. she is actually the age of my MIL but love the shit out of that girl. we clicked so well. dont underestimate woman who are a little older than you. (im 27, my friend ehh 47 ish) its tough at first but put youself out there and some one will come along. it took a whole summer to finally get on a team the next summer. 

Post # 6
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Every time I move (which is kinda often), it’s like I have to re-invent the wheel. My tip: do what you love, and you’ll find people who will share your interests. Join a bookclub, go to open mic nights, start a t-ball league, take a Krav Maga class, learn to paint watercolors, attend wine tasting nights … whatever stirs your passion, put yourself at those events, and you’ll start making friends naturally. (The website MeetUp is especially helpful with this.) Also, just be friendly. A lot of people go through their day-to-day lives without really interacting meaningfully with anyone. Strike up a conversation with your floormate when you’re waiting on the apartment building elevator. Ask someone about the book they’re reading on the bus. Etc.


Also, don’t limit yourself to only making girlfriends. Of my circle of closest friends, it’s split pretty evenly between men and women. If you’re really interested in … I dunno, antique cars or something, you might find that there are more dudes there than ladies – do it anyway! Hobbies are for everybody 🙂 And a diverse social circle really is a blessing.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  rachel85.
Post # 7
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I moved to a new city after leaving grad school and had to find a group of friends at 24. I didn’t keep in touch with my college group of friends, and none of them lived in my new city, anyways. I started singing in a choir, and then found a new roommate through craigslist, and then started going to meetups with people I met through flickr.

The roommate introduced me to her friends, and I’m still friends with them to this day.

The meetups I went to morphed into a wonderful network of arts-lovers.

I started exploring craft beer and met a whole other network of friends through that.

So yes, it’s totally possible to meet new friends and best friends even after college.


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