Post # 1
everyone has a different view on sex…i used to look at it as making love, and maybe it was just my ex, but it was horrible, i didn’t enjoy it, i didn’t let loose so to speak. after we split, i changed my attitude and when dh & I started dating, i mentioned something about sex is just that, sex. You don’t need to be in love, or have a special bond, it’s all about “getting off”. and since i changed my way of thinking, sex is awesome, i am open to new things and actually really want it all the time!
How do you perceive it??
Not trying to offend anyone, just my opinion is all!!
Post # 3
I see making love and having sex as two very different things.
Post # 4
We mix it up. We make love, we have quickies, we have rough sex, weird sex, hard core sex….we keep things intresting.
Post # 5
I enjoy rough sex (a bit of BSDM) with the love of my life. This means I can trust him to the fullest, but spice it up a little too. We love to experiment and the deep trust that we feel because we are each others SO adds so much to the experience. It’s great to look him in the eye and see he enjoys the rough sex so much, but be really tender afterwards.
Post # 6
If H2B ever uses the term “making love” then he definately won’t be getting any that night!
Post # 7
I like making love! “Having sex” sounds unemotional to both my SO and me, so we use “making love.”
Post # 9
@jmaze: Same here. I have nights I want to “make love” nice and sweet, and I have nights where I just want to be f***ed, lol. We have all kinds of sex.
Post # 10
I don’t know why, but “making love” has always sounded hokey to me. Maybe I’m weird, but I think sex is an expression of lust, not love. I express love through cuddling, waking up early to make him breakfast, giving him backrubs after work, etc.
Post # 11
@Darcy212: I would die of laughter if FI said “let’s make love”
Post # 12
I used to get offended when SO simply called it “having sex” or “fu*king”. I told him pop referred the making love terminology because it was more special than having sex with a random. According to him they all mean the same thing (when it comes to me obviously lol). Even if we have sex or “fu*k” it is still making love because we ARE in love. I guess I liked that answer because I’m ok with calling it either of those now.
Post # 13
I think you can “have sex” with anything, but I can only “make love” with someone I am in love with and I don’t want to have sex or make love with anyone but my husband EVER AGAIN! It doesn’t really matter what we call it, we know that its just one of the many ways to show our deep love for each other!
Post # 14
The term “making love” makes me cringe for some reason.
Post # 15
We never call it making love. I’ll be honest: we call it f***ing.
Post # 16
I hate “making love” personally. I think it sounds silly, so we don’t call it that.