Making sure the most important people are able to be there – question(s)

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

I ran it by my Maid and Matron of Honor. AND GOOD THING! My Maid of Honor has a cousins wedding, that she is a bridesmaid in, the same day as what we were originally planning for. So I jumped back a week.

She’s like a sister and I couldn’t imagine not having her there.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We told no one except our parents and our best man/maid of honor. I felt like going beyond that logistically was too hard. Once everyone ok’ed it, we moved forward. SOMEONE will not be able to attend your wedding because of a conflict, and that’s ok.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We didn’t run our date by anyone. We picked it and told everyone.

 

Post # 7
Hostess
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

AM1203:  We didn’t run it by anyone, we picked and then we told them – it was about 9 months out.  We had one conflict but it wasn’t a critical person.

Post # 8
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380 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

We had a particular officiant in mind, so we just made sure she was available. Other than that we figured most people would work around what we chose.

Post # 9
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744 posts
Busy bee

AM1203:  If there’s anyone whose absence would be devastating to you, I would run the date by them.  I think leaving it at your parents, siblings, and best friend seems reasonable.  You just have to be prepared for what you’re going to say if they bring up a conflict that is more of an inconvenience than a true no-go and expect you to work around it.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

AM1203:  Scared me a little too.. I was nervous people wouldn’t be able to make it. But, we gave a years notice.. Held it on a Saturday.. Central location.. And not near or on any holidays. We made it pretty easy for everyone.

It worked out perfectly for us. We invited about 60 people and had a total of 51. The people who didn’t make it were expected to not make it.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My fiance and I put our must haves list together. Our parents, siblings and their family, and a few close friends.  We chose our date around those people. NO ONE ELSE.  Within 10 days of being engaged, I had people telling me their vacation schedules for the entire year of 2015. It was so overwhelming, so this is how we came up with our wedding date. Those people we couldn’t imagine not being there…we took their schedules with us when we signed the contract with the venue.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

AM1203:  book it. If you have given her a day or two and she hasn’t gotten back to you, don’t lose your venue for one person. I told people they had two days to get back to me. Everyone did within three hours. Lol. BOOK IT.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

AM1203:  I don’t think I will ever forget the horror of trying to pin down a venue! LOL. Hope you hear from her soon. If not….book it tomorrow. You’ll sleep like a baby once you have the date and the venue. 🙂

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