Post # 1
The wedding was just over a week ago and i can not decide if I should sell my dress. I am not overly attached to the actual dress, we will have a zillion pictures of it but I am so worried that if I let it go I will regret it. I have done things like this before, return gifts I thought I didn’t like or wouldn’t use and instantly regretted it; purchase something, get home and know I made a mistake. I also don’t want to hold on to it too long while the dress loses its value, goes out of style and regret not selling it.
I can’t see myself putting it on again (well maybe once or twice) but after the first few months I doubt I will look at it again. My sister and I did try on my mom’s once each and that was fun but is it worth it for my possible daughter to maybe want to try it on hopefully at least once. I didn’t even rush to look at it when we got home, tonight was the first night. The dress also got a little banged up, the trim on the bottom is ripped in two spots, but it is really not that noticeable and I am sure would still make a bride very happy. I just don’t know if I would get close to what I would hope to get for it in that condition (although really you wouldn’t be able to tell unless i pointed to it and you bent over to look).
My DH is not pushing me to sell but he has told me that he would like me to. We have home projects that could really use the extra cash… Oh I just don’t know what to do… Advice would be good or even just how you came to your final decison. This has been bothering me to the point that I had a dream about it last night :/
Post # 3
@Tina.Baker: I foresee having trouble making this same decision. I think, in the end, it would depend on how much I could get for it. For example, if I was able to make back 50% or less of what I paid (depending on how expensive the dress was obviously, I’m basing this on a 1,000 budget), then the memory/memento of it would be worth it versus the small amount of cash I’d recoup.
Post # 4
I haven’t had my wedding yet, but am wondering whether or not I should sell my dress later. I would wait until you get your pictures back on the off chance that you don’t have one that you really love of you in your dress you could have a portrait taken in it. I agree with love108, you could post it “with a reserve” and see how much you would get for it.
Post # 5
I can’t decide. Originally, I was gonna sell it ASAP. I’ve now been married 5 months, and I don’t know if I want to or not. I’m not particularly attached. I haven’t seen it since the wedding day, it’s still dirty, and hanging in its bag. I’ll have it cleaned soon, but I think maybe *maybe* my possible future daughter will want to see it and think it’s gorgeous, then will I regret having sold it? I dunno. I probably will sell it just to get it over with. The chances that our future daughters will want to wear the dress are slim-to-none, and they can see plenty of pictures if they really want. Haha.
Post # 6
I also struggled with this decision before the wedding, thinking afterwards I would know how I felt and make the decision but still no luck. Maybe after the pictures come I will feel differently but some how I doubt it… I hate making these decisions! 🙂
Post # 7
I nipped this decision in the bud before the wedding and just rented my dress(es). I figured it wasn’t something that I would ever where again, and would hold no real sentimental value to me. My mom took them back for me the next day, and I haven’t missed them since. I do enjoy looking at them in photos, though =)
Post # 8
I don’t know what I’m going to do either. On one hand it’s silly to keep it in that I’m never going to wear it again and it will basically just be collecting dust in a closet somewhere. Yet on the other hand its my WEDDING dress. The dress I married the love of my life in. Plus the fact that I LOVE it. It’s just such a hard choice to make. Do I do the practical thing and sell it, or the sentimental thing and keep it…ahhhhhhh I DON”T KNOW 😀
Post # 9
All I can say is, don’t drop it off at a consignment shop and then forget all about it until you forfeit your ownership of it, which is what happened to mine! I assume someone bought it and wore it eventually, but I didn’t get a dime. (To be fair, it was a modestly priced dress even new, I think it was about $500 and in retrospect I regret spending even that much.)
Post # 10
I swore that I would sell the dress after our wedding but I haven’t gotten around to doing it yet (now 8+ months later). My reasons are mostly due to laziness, though. I haven’t taken the dress out of the garment bag since I stuffed it in there on our wedding night so I imagine it’s a wrinkly mess. I also know that there is a bit of damage since DH stepped on the back and pulled the bustle out so I have no clue what that will entail to fix it. I don’t really want to spend any money on having it cleaned and repaired just to make back a few hundred bucks so at least for the time being, I’m going to hold onto it but not for any sentimental reasons. If I ever get to the point where we could really use that money then I would sell it in a heartbeat but thankfully we haven’t reached that point.
My mom saved her dress from her wedding in 1984 and it was still in style 10 years later when my aunt was married and wore it. Had the dress fit me (it was like 8 sizes too small) then I would have worn it for my wedding with some minor adjustments. My moms dress was classic and very pretty so something like that can still be in style generations later. My dress, on the other hand, probably won’t be so I don’t foresee my hypothetical daughter wanting to wear it when her time comes.
Post # 11
I think I’m going to keep mine. My mom preserved and kept hers and I think it’s something I’d like to do. I just don’t have the money for the preservation now so it’s still in the bag. I’m a very sentimental person so even if I never have a daughter who ever tries it on, I just can’t see myself parting with the dress that I agonized over and got married in. I feel the same way about my veil (I loved that veil more than I loved my dress).
Post # 12
Anyone else struggling to decide? What was the thing that help you make the final call?
Post # 13
I’m going to keep mine. I wanted to do a bridal session w/ my horse, but I’m waiting until after the wedding because I’m worrying about getting it too dirty (even a clean horse is dirty..lol).
My mom borrowed a wedding dress, so I never was able to try it on. BUT, I remember as a kid trying on my grandmother’s wedding dress pretty much EVERY time I was at her house (which was A LOT).
Post # 14
I’m contemplating selling mine. My dress was pretty expensive for me ($2300) and I’m almost positive it is super trendy. (Strapless, drop waist, tiered/ruffled skirt) So I would absolutely be open to the idea of selling it. BUTTTTTT I am alsooo very sentimental and I have EVERY single card, text, email that FI has ever sent me that says anything about him loving me or our relationship. And I read over them and smile every now and again. So I cant imagine being able to not have my dress to try on after a few babies to see if “I still can fit it” I mean IDK. If iit’ll end up anything like my prom dresses did, I would much rather sell it, but I just imagine your wedding dress being different. I’ll probably keep my veil, garter, and other things so I’ll still have a piece of my wedding attire forever. And maybe my daughter could use my veil or something as her “something old” b/c I’m almost positive she wont want to wear my dress in 25 years, loll!
Post # 15
I think I’m going to keep mine; as I’ve been wedding planning + on Pinterest, I’ve found some cute ways to incorporate my own mother’s dress in my wedding (small wrap on my bouquet) and my (future) kids lives, so I think it’d be sweet if somewhere down the line it would happen with my own. For example, I asked my mom if I could use part of her dress to eventually make a christening gown for my children.
That being said, who knows if I’ll change my mind after the wedding!
Post # 16
I’ve been debating this as well.. though I love my dress, I don’t see me using it after the wedding, and think it would be nice to sell it to someone else, who can also appreciate it. I guess I’ll have to see how I feel!