Male friend (an ex) got engaged- suddenly blocked me and wont speak to me anymo?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

There’s about eleventy million threads on this site about partners who do not believe it is appropriate for an engaged or married person to maintain friendships with those of the opposite gender. Perhaps your former friend’s fiance is one of those people who believes men and women cannot be “just friends” and has asked him to cut you out of his life?

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

lmao eleventy million

its probably because she doesnt want him to keep friends that he’s slept with before? Obviously probably something she would never tell you to your face, but thats my guess

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

He’s set his boundaries regarding exes now that he’s getting married. You are I guess on the other side of that boundary. Don’t take it personally, let him go. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

His fiancee could have issues with him communicating with exes or those he has slept with.  Your friendship was obviously not that strong or he would have stood his ground.  sorry OP. Move on.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

ohhhh ok, well that doesnt really make any sense.

Can you text her and ask why he isnt speaking with you?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Amerie27:  Yeah I would do that – text her, congratulate her on the engagement, say how happy you are for both of them and ask her why he isn’t speaking to you.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Sorry but dating or sleeping with someone is an ex of some sort. I’m sorry this happened but he needed to cut exes out of his life for the respect of his future wife. If I was dating a guy, i wouldn’t mind him having opposite sex gender friends but exes unless they happen to be the mother of his child would need to go in my book. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a similar situation happen to me many moons ago. I decided to respect his decision and leave him  be. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Sometimes you have to just accept that someone else’s priorities and boundaries do not match your own, and accept that you are no longer part of their life and move on. While you may not think your status of “ex” as being an issue to their relationship, what you think is irrelevant; they get to decide who to keep in their lives, and you can’t force your way back in,  just like if you decided for whatever reason to cut contact with someone, it would be pushy and obnoxious for them to keep trying to get back into your life.

 

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