Post # 1
I recently had a long hear to heart with my best friend. I love her dearly and would love for her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, however she’s pregnant with her 3rd child and will probably be unable to go with us to Vegas for the wedding, it’s not within their budget thinking that there are 3 kids and a hubby to tote along. Plus she has a rule about Vegas, she’s not bringing her kids there (just a personal thing) since they are all under the age of 4. We swore that within 5-10 years when everything settles down we’ll have our party together in Vegas together. She also promised that she would come for the reception, which will be held in our homestate.
So. This brings upon my next question. I was racking my head thinking of who I could ask to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I was thinking of someone who has been my best friend and that my FH would be okay with and I came up with a male friend of ours. (also, he would help me change, no worries as he’s gay)
Has anyone had a male “maid of honor”?
I read around and see that it’s called Honor Attendant or Man in Waiting.
If so, can you give me your advice on roles and speeches. Advice in general would be appreicated. 🙂
Post # 3
My male best friend is my man of honor :-). He’s gay, but he’s still not helping me get dressed, lol. I’m not sure what kind of advice you’re looking for, though. He’ll act like any other Maid/Matron of Honor. He helped plan my shower and bachelorette party, will hang out with me while I get ready, and he’ll make a speech at the reception. He’s been my best friend for nearly 20 years, there’s no one else I’d have in that role.
Post # 4
I have two best friends (who are also friends with each other) that I have known for 14+ years now (yikes! I’m old lol)
The lady BFF is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and the guy BFF is my “Bridesman.” I initially was trying to think of other ways to incorporate him (readings, etc.), but then I decided that was ridiculous and unfair to keep him out of my bridal party just because he has a penis. So bridesman it is! He was actually the person with me when I found my dress, and has been a huge help. He’ll be coming to the bachelorette too! (he’s gay and my fiance knows him well now, so no issues there).
Post # 5
treat him just like you would a moh, im sure he will be delighted. a good guy friend of mine(also gay) is marrying us but i know he would of sttod in a bridesmaid role if thats what i wanted! just double check with him first that he’s comfortable in that role and the responsibilities that may go along with it.
Post # 6
My cousing had her brother as her “Man of Honor.” They are very close and it just fit that he would stand up next to her on the most special day of her life. No one thought it was strange. It’s your wedding, if you want to do it, do it!
Post # 7
i had my 27 yr old son as my man of honour and no he’s not gay. he is a big part of my life so i wanted him to be there with me.
my husband had his only sibling, his sister, stand up for him as his best woman.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I just wanted first hand experiences. I just was over his house & he’s comfortable with the responsibilities & he reassured me that he was coming to Vegas. Such a relief!
Post # 9
I’m having a Man of Honor as well. He isn’t really involved with planning. He is my sounding board when I need it though. He lives in FL and I am in PA, so he can’t be really involved. Though I know if he lived close he would be. He will be giving a speech as well as the Best Man. He will be doing most things a Maid/Matron of Honor does except planning the Shower. He’s too far away for that.