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My gyno now is a female, but I have had male gynos in the past. It has actually become harder to find male gynos recently, as so many women prefer to see a female for modesty reasons that men have been discouraged from going into the field. However, I have never observed any quality differences between male and female gynos. I would ask women in your area for recommendations, check whether the recommended ones take your insurance, and go from there.
For me gender didn't matter. It had to be someone who I was comfortable with. Someone who is very professional and who can answer any questions I might have.You can get recommendations from friends. Trust your instinct if you get a bad vibe or you feel intimidated when you ask questions thats not the doctor for you.
Lol and I'm a freak about doctor's offices they MUST be tidy...i mean if u can't take the time to keep your office clean and tidy how do I know you're keeping your equipment that way.
@2dBride: Thanks for the tips. So far in my internet searching there is a single female gyno in my town (yay hick towns!) and all the men are my fathers age. Sigh.
I've always had female gynos. I would just feel really weird about a guy doc poking around down there.
I have a male gyno, but he is a seasoned professional. I was nervous at first to meet with him, but he has been great.I had a really hard time finding a birth control pill that worked for me, and he was super patient and listened to all of my concerns. I don't really think it matters if the doctor is male or female, but rather if they are a quality doctor. Definitely ask around before making an appointment and then find out who is taking new patients.
This is a preference question, really... nothing that we can help with too much. Would you feel more comfortable with a female or male that will be, as linquo42 put it, "poking down there"? lol! My personal preference is that it must be a female because I do not feel comfortable with a male doctor.... just my preference. So ask your self what you are most comfortable with "poking down there".
My gyno is male - I don't really have a problem with it, since I think it would be uncomfortable in either case (stranger looking at and prodding my intimate parts).
He's really good at answering questions though and not making you feel like he's just trying to shuffle you out the door so he can get to the next patient. I think that's the most important thing, not their gender.
My current gyno is a male and I've had both males and females in the past. I don't care either way - I don't make my healthcare decisions based on the gender of the provider.
I've had both and I've had no difference in quality of care. The gender didn't matter to me because it's still a stranger poking around my business.
I personally prefer a female gyno. I'm just more comfortable with some that has the same parts poking at them. I don't think it matters in terms of skill though.
I've had both, it just really depends on the doctor. I currently have a female, but you really have to go with experience and who you're comfortable with.
Like the PPs have said, this is a personal preference. There should be no quality difference, but, having said that, I've gone to both, and my current gyno is male, and I really, really like him. I almost feel like he is more receptive to my concerns and much more gentle during the exam than my previous female doctors, who were more like, "Suck it up, I have a vagina too!". That could have nothing to do with gender, though.
I go with whoever has more experience and better bedside manner. I've had several male gynecologists and one female. It just so happened that the men happened were older and the female was more recently out of school. I ended up seeing a male last time because I felt like he listened to my concerns more than the younger OB/GYN and he seemed more confident in his recommendations. Keep in mind that if you don't mesh with that particular doctor, you're not stuck with that one person for life, especially if you pick a practice with multiple doctors.
Do you have any friends in your area who could recommend an OB/GYN?
I have a female gyno. I just looked on my insurance site and found someone close to my house. Then called and asked for a woman. That easy.
Mine is a female - going to see her tomorrow actually! *Sigh* Lol. I prefer females just because I know they at least have some clue what it's like to "be in my shoes." I guess it just makes me feel like the playing field is even? Haha. It's really just my preference. I don't feel like a male doctor would be any different as far as the annual checkup and all that, but I have specialty issues (fertility) and feel more comortable speaking to a woman about it.
@cazian: Hahaha this is my experience too! I have had both and I think both have been fine, but I go to a man now and he is wonderful, when I have gone to women in the past I have felt that they were a little... rougher, I guess, for lack of a better description, because they have one and they know what it feels like.
And, I actually don't go to a specific gyno right now, I just get my annuals from my regular doc, and like I said, he's great. So there is that.
Not gonna lie...last Gyno was a hot man.
I found him when I got pregnant with my daughter 5 years ago. Obviously I had no idea what he looked like, but he was referred by my insurance and his office was at the hospital I wanted to deliver at.
When I ever walked in that room, I was shocked. My daughter's father was like "Really? Seriously?" Hahahaha. He unfortunately relocated back to PA where he was from, but he was great. Very comfotable to talk to, I trusted him, and he took great care of me and my daughter when she was born. (I had a C-section.)
I have had both and I think I prefer men. I have a woman now who is okay but the first one I had I really didn't like. I have a male specialist that I also see though. The worst part of having a man is that there will be another person in the room.
I go to female, I just feel more comfortable that way. Also, I happen to be in an all women practice (there's 5 of them) which is good b/c when I got pregnant they make you see everybody, and this way I don't have to worry about seeing a man.
For me I perfer women. This could be because I had a male doctor who told me that my painful intercourse was "in my head" and later with a female gyno it was revealed that I was actually allergic to tampons and that was causing the pain. I just think that female gyno's are better because they have the same equipment. You can study the va-jay-jay all you want, but until you personally experience PMS or what I went through, you just really don't 100% get it.
I think personality and bedside manner is much more important than gender. I've had male gynos and ob/gyns but currently have a female gyno. I have to say the dudes were a lot funnier and had more personality. I guess it takes your mind off of things. The lady I have now is okay. Very professional but kind of lackluster in the personality dept. She is under my current insurance and close to my house. I'm not very modest so I kind of have the attitude - " Let me hop up on this table and whoever you are, do what you need to do so I can get out of here."
Personally, I've always gone with female gynos. I"m just more comfortable. I also feel like they truly know what it's like to deal with some of the things women deal with. It's all about your preference though. I know women who will only go to men and those who will only go to women.
@cazian: i've noticed the same thing -- the male gyno I had was far, far, gentler than any of the female gynos I've had. He also was much more receptive to my questions about pain relief during my cycle, and all that fun stuff. I think some female docs tend to minimize it because they also go through it.
I will only see male gyns. I have seen several women in different states and practices and they were all short, too rough and judged me. The men were kind, listened to my questions and needs and very gentle down there. I felt the women thought they had the parts so that made it so they could be rough since they could handle it.
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So, maybe TMI, but I really do need to be going about getting that first gyno appointment. Problem is, I have no idea where to start looking for one in my town, yay for not knowing many people, at least not well enough to ask that... Anywho, I figure a good starting point is to figure out which is (generally) better, so who better to ask than the Bee? So do you go to a male or female gyno? Why? Is it just based on insurance stuff or preference? Thanks yall!