Post # 1
One of my best guy friends just seriously asked me if I would consider having him in the bridal party and it’s made me really curious. I am new at this, so I’m wondering peoples’ opinions… if you have a male bridesmaid, does he stand on your side or with the ushers? Also, what do you call him? I don’t think my friend minds being called a “maid,” I’m just curious what is normal, and what is awkward.
Thanks bees 🙂
Post # 3
mine is a gentleman of honor and he will be standing on my side. he’s pretty psyched about it too.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
I think this is definitely more common now, and not out of the norm – after all, women have male friends and vice versa. I think he would stand on your side, perhaps in the same outfit as the groomsmen. I’m not sure what to call him – Bridesman maybe?
Post # 5
My brother had a female “groomswoman” and my SIL had a male “bridesman.” The female stood with the men and the man stood with the women. When I first heard about it, I thought it would be a little weird, but it didn’t look so at all! Browsing my photographers’ website, they also just shot a wedding with a male BM. He just wore what the men were wearing. I think it’s a neat idea if you have a close male friend!
Post # 6
My brother and I are close, he’ll be my Man of Honor. Besides my fiance’s Best Man, that will be our entire wedding party…except for the Chuppah Holders! both of the men willbe our witnesses and standing by our sides.
Post # 7
I would like my brother to be in the wedding party, and at first, I was thinking of asking my fiance to take him on his side, and I’ll take my FSIL. But now, I am leaning toward having my brother stand on my side. He and I are very close and I think he’s the best brother in the world, so why shouldn’t he stand on my side? It would be way more meaningful for me to have him standing on my side. As for what to call him, I saw someone called theirs “Man of Honor”. I like that, but “Gentleman of Honor” is good, too. I’ll definitely have “Honor” in his title. I’ll have to decide on that when the time comes. But, for you, if he’s only going to be the equivalent of a bridesmaid, I think bridesman is appropriate. 🙂
Post # 8
A friend of mine’s “maid of honor” was her guy friend. He was the “man of honor” and he was lots of fun! i don’t know if I’d outright ASK to be in someone’s bridal party though….that’s a little rude.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2010 - Victorian Gardens of Two Sisters
I’m having a man stand up on my side. We haven’t decide yet what he’ll be called (he didn’t really like Bridesman), but he’s truly honored and excited to be up there with me. FI is also having one of his close female friends on his to even it out, but I didn’t think that was necessary.
I don’t think it will be awkward at all. He’s an important person in your life, why should he be excluded? I think which side he stands on really depends on where he’d be most comfortable.
In our case, my “bridesman” will be wearing a tie that matches the bridesmaids’ dresses, but his suit will be the same as our other guys. The “groomsmaid” will be wearing a gray dress to match the guys’ suits.
Post # 10
My wedding will be nontraditional in that sense as well. Both my FI and I have opposite sex friends that we’re close to, so I have a Man of Honor, plus another bridesman, as well as two bridesmaids on my side. My FI will have a Best Man, two groomsmen, and a groomswoman on his side. We honestly don’t care it if does look weird in the photos…we chose them because we love them! 🙂
Post # 11
I like the term “bridesman” and I’d definety have him stand on your side.
Mrs. Avacado had a bridesman, check out her recap pics.
Post # 12
I was bridesmaid about a year and a half ago and the bride had 2 bridesmen. I think it is perfectly acceptable now to have anyone you want stand up with you.
Post # 13
I am having a “Bridesman” and my FH is going to be having a “Groomsmaid” I love the idea and it is the perfect way to bring a little fun into even the most traditional weddings. I am having my bridesman wear a vest that matches the bridesmaids dresses and the groomsmen are wearing silver vests so the groomsmaid is wearing a dress that matches the BMs in black with silver accents 🙂
Post # 14
My best friend Tom is my “bridesman” lol.
Post # 15
I’ve seen a “Man of honor” several times. I think by now most people have seen the idea and just think its sweet.