(Closed) Man not wearing a wedding ring

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How important is it that the man wears a wedding band while in public?
    I would not get married to a man who did not wear his ring : (140 votes)
    36 %
    I would let him not wear it when he's out with his friends...but he HAS to wear it with strangers : (4 votes)
    1 %
    If he really doesn't like wearing it... he's free not to, but I'd rather he did : (198 votes)
    50 %
    I don't care at all of my man wears a band or not : (51 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    1571 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Maybe he could try a thinner band? I always feel like this is a tough situation.

    Post # 4
    3574 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think he should make an effort to try to wear it, since it is a symbol of the love two people share, but i don’t think you need to worry about it before you are engaged.

    Post # 5
    5011 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    It was very important to me that my fiance wore a wedding ring after marriage. It really meant a lot to me and I told him that very early on.

    While he didn’t disagree, and even wears an engagement ring, I thought it was important to bring it up early on.

    I’m personally of the opinion that a man should want to wear a wedding ring if he’s proud of being married. Admittedly wearing one won’t stop a man cheating, but having one on his finger is a major deterrent to other women. Is that awful?

    Post # 7
    616 posts
    Busy bee

    On the one hand, I think that someone who’s never really TRIED wearing a ring probably can’t appreciate how quickly you can get used to a properly fitted comfort band. On the other hand, I know a lot of people who don’t make a big deal out of wearing their wedding rings (both men and women). Personally, I wouldn’t be very upset if he gave a good solid try and still decided he didn’t like it.

    Post # 8
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @squeak: I agree with you.  I don’t understand why a man would not wear his wedding ring.  I am a little sad because my Fiance may not be able to wear his to work, there is a good chance he may lose it with the job he does.  And, that really bums me out. But, he is super excited for a ring and he picked it out and tells me all the time he wants to wear his now and not wait till the wedding.

    Does your Fiance have a job that may cause a risk for losing his ring or injuring himself because of it?

    ETA: I may get him a super cheap ring for work so I won’t cry my eyes out if his gets lost or destroyed.

    Post # 9
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I can understand where he’s coming from.

    But. He might change his mind if he picks one for comfort and tries it out. Shopping might help. That might be your compromise – ask him to try it for a month or so after the wedding. If he’s still not into it, then fine. He tried.

    I can also understand where the OP is coming from, but at the end of the day, it’s just a symbol, and OP already said there’s no question of trust.

    Post # 10
    251 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Honestly, no offense but I think that’s crazy.  To me there really isn’t an option.  If you get married you wear a wedding ring.  Period.  I know there are more people that are much more liberal these days and think that not wearing one is ok but to me your denying your marriage.  My Fiance has never worn a ring in his life but he will when he gets married because it’s the symbol of marriage. 

    Post # 11
    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    My Fiance had similar concerns, but in the end, he decided to get a pretty heavy ring and he loves it. I’ve found him sneaking to put it on. haha Also, his alternative was to get a wedding band tattoo on his finger. He has no tattoos, but with his profession, it’ll be difficult for him to always wear his ring, so a tattoo would be easier. (nothing crazy… no names, just a band). Just a thought.

    Post # 12
    4804 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think that the only reason he should try to wear one is because it obviously means so much to you.

    There is nothing intrinsically wrong with him not wanting to wear one.  They don’t always deter other women from flirting, it doesn’t mean he’s not proud of his marriage, many men don’t wear them in certain cultures and even just specific people don’t wear them (à la Prince William), people can’t wear them at work, etc.

    But if it’s super important to you, that’s the only reason he should try.

    Post # 13
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My husband hardly ever wears his wedding band, and I am totally ok with that. He is a mechanic and can’t wear a ring to work, and its silly for him to come home and put it on. I mean, when we go out places, if he remembers he wears it, or when we go on vacation he does, but honestly he doesn’t wear it way more than he does. Does that bother me? Not one bit. He’s not any less married if he doesn’t wear the ring.  Saying that its disrespectful or denying your marriage is ridiculous, imo.

    My dad also didn’t wear a wedding band for 25 years of my parents marriage, because he threw it away at work by accident, and they just never got another one until a few years ago. He still only wears it on his days off, because he can’t wear it at work either.

    Post # 14
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @MademoiselleL: I agree. I mean, some women are more apt to hit on a man wearing a wedding ring than one who isn’t, just for the thrill. As long as you trust your husband, a piece of jewelry makes no difference

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