Post # 1
My FI and I are meeting with our priest next week, so I will ask him about this then, but in the meantime… does anyone know if the Catholic Church generally objects to male attendants standing on the bride’s side?
FI is having three groomsmen – his best friend, a mutual friend of ours and my brother. I’d like to have two bridesmaids and a “man of honor” – my male best friend from college – but I’m worried that that might be a little too… uh, liberal? non-traditional? – for the church.
Does anyone have any anecdotes or experience with having a bridesman in the church? Thanks!
Post # 3
@KatieBklyn: A bridesmaid is a non-catholic thing, it’s just an american-english tradition.
I’m from Spain, about everyone here is Catholic and we don’t even HAVE bridesmaids… The whole concept in non existing. it has nothing to do with religion, really. I’ll be having bridesmaids as something “fun”, but no one really gets it, they think it’s somewhat goofy. hehe
So I don’t think the priest would have any problem with that.
Post # 4
There’s no formal requirement to even have “–of honor’s” so I’m sure most priests wouldn’t mind, but, like most things, I’m also sure that there’s going to be at least one priest somewhere who objects. Just ask.
Post # 5
I was a bridesmaid in a Catholic wedding with a man of honor – I don’t think there was any issue in the planning!
Post # 6
The only requirement is that there be at least two Christian witnesses – no gender is specified. 🙂
Post # 7
i have a man of honor! and hes going to walking back down the aisle after the ceremony with my brother, who is a groomsmen since they are a couple 🙂 and i don’t really care if anyone has a problem with it lol because its what i wanted!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I’ll come back with an update from our priest after we talk to him next week. I’m really glad to hear that it shouldn’t be a problem. 🙂
Post # 9
good luck! I have 2 bridesmen and FI has a groomswoman 🙂