Post # 1
So my Fiance and I still haven’t picked an exact date but there is a possibility of getting married in March of 2015 so I have been really trying to look into all my planning options. The more I’ve looked at everything, the more stressed out I become and the more I want to procrastinate the planning process. The two of us are pretty laid back and simple and want the same vibe for our wedding day. However, I am getting the idea that our families will be expecting something a little more elaborate. We are not receiving any sort of financial help for the wedding so it is even more important for me to be careful about what we spend. I refuse to take out any loans or get into any debt just to have an expensive reception. I’m just worried that we’re going to be disappointing people if we plan a casual DIY wedding but at the same time that is all we can afford and all we really want. Any suggestions on how I can plan the wedding I want without disappointing any family? I try not to let what others think affect me but no one wants to disappoint their parents.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
As long as you are a decent host (make sure there is enough seating/food/drinks/bathrooms… the essential comforts), you’ve met your obligation. If your guests, including your parents, choose to be disappointed because you served burgers instead of filet, that is a poor reflection on them rather than on you. Don’t go out of your way to try and gain the approval of those sorts of people. It all comes down to “Those who mind don’t matter; and those who matter don’t mind.”
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2015 - Golf and Country Club
Do what’s right for you! Only do what you are comfortable with financially. If your parents or in-laws want something more, simply tell them that it is not in the budget and if that aspect is important to them perhaps they can contribute!
Your wedding is for yourself and your FI, it’s not to impress any one, so stick to your guns mama!
Post # 4
elleringer: Do what you love with the $ you have. I’m sure when you put it all together it will be so “You” that they will love it. There is a generational difference of what a wedding “should” look like, but don’t let that influence you. Be true to yourselves.
Post # 5
Do what you want to do. I have no doubt that there are people who think my low-key church + backyard reception isn’t ‘weddingy’ enough. But you don’t want to look back and think “I wish I hadn’t had all that fuss”. Enjoy your day.