(Closed) Mandatory Plus 1?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Should B get a +1?
    No. He knows everyone there and you have to apply the "relationship" rule whenever possible. : (14 votes)
    48 %
    Yes. You make an exception for the wedding party. : (15 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I’m of the frame of mind that the wedding party gets a +1. But that’s doesn’t mean that I’m “right” or that you’re horrible for disagreeing! You can disagree, and you can certainly do what’s best for you situation and your guest list.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    As much as we hated to because our venue is physically very small and we had a lot of friends we really wanted to invite, we had to sacrifice some spots for the +1’s for our wedding party.  It just seemed too rude to not give them the option to bring someone with them, even though some are single.  

    Post # 6
    Member
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think wedding party should get a plus one just as a courtesy for them for being your closest family/friends and putting extra time and money into your wedding.

    Post # 7
    Member
    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I totally understand your side of the argument.  And while I do think that normally the wedding party get’s a +1, in this case I would let it slide.  If he were a groomsman I would say he should definitely get a +1, but he’s not.  And if he didn’t know a ton of people or had a girlfriend I would say give him the +1, but neither is the case.  You have a small guest list and set a line  for the +1’s to those people who have significant others, so I think you have reason to stand by it.  Personally, when I was not engaged, even when I got a +1 I did not bring someone unless it was a significant other.  I feel like it’s courtesy not to bring some random person to a friend’s wedding just because I was told I could, especially if I knew people who would be there.  I”m not sure all people are as aware though.  Also, when I was in the bridal party at my friends wedding one of the bridesmaids who was single had a +1, and chose to bring someone that the bride went to highschool with.  It was totally inappropriate, the bride would have invited that person if she wanted them there, but the bride was totally cool (to her credit!) and just let it be.  Better to err on the side of caution!

    Post # 8
    Member
    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    if you’re close enough to have him in your wedding, can’t you say you are tight on numbers, etc..and just explain if you could invite everyone, you would but you can’t and since he’s not dating anyone, you can’t extend him a +1. If he is a good friend, he should understand and respect what you want for your wedding.

    Post # 9
    Member
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I do think that the wedding party should always get a plus 1. Chances are theyre dishing out a lot of money for the wedding (and time) and I think its nice to give them a plus one. I told my girls not to go looking for someone (anyone) to bring, but if there was someone they wanted to bring, then they should just let me know, and they definitely could. For other people, the relationship has to be serious for their sig other to be invited if we dont know them (the sig other), but for the wedding party, whoever they want to bring, they can. 

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