Mangagement ring question…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2230 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

Maybe just present it to him the way you would a surprise gift, you could wrap it up nicely and have a nice dinner and put the box on his plate with a chocolate on top as “desert”. Once he’s opened it let him know that you don’t expect him to wear it all the time, that he can take it off and your feelings won’t be hurt. 

Post # 4
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My FI’s man-gagement ring was $35 from and he loves it. He brags about it to the customers in his store and most people have totally gotten it. He forgets it occasionally, but that was part of his reason for wanting one. He’d never been a jewelery guy before and if he was going to forget or lose a ring we wanted it to be something cheap, not the real one. I wouldn’t be upset if he dropped this one in the dumpster at work (his real one is a different story). If he doesn’t want to wear it around his friends, he doesn’t have to, but they might understand it too. The only person who hasn’t been on board is one of FI’s cousins. She noticed it over Christmas and was like “are you wearing your wedding ring already?” and we explained it was a man-gagement ring. She then replied “so, what, you had to spend more money on him?” and I tried to laugh it off and say “haha, no it was only 35 bucks” to which she responded “Oh, so that’s all my cousin is worth?” Can. Not. Win.

Post # 5
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@squishee:  I was in this same exact situation earlier in our engagement.  I did buy him a titanium band in the size and width he thought he wanted.  He wore it a little to get a sense of wearing a ring (and we changed the size a few times, since he kept underestimating how snug he wanted it).

I gave it to him in a casual/joke proposal, no grand gestures (I jumped onto his back, held it up for him, and asked if he’d still marry me).  It worked!

We bought his “real” ring pretty soon after, and he wears it about half the time (at home and around close friends/family) but he doesn’t wear it in situations where people will ask if he’s married and he’ll have to say no.

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