(Closed) Man’s POV on waiting

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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442 posts
Helper bee

@Mr. Coffee: Thank you so much for posting your perspective, it definitely gave me some. I was actually hoping you’d post about this topic after reading your reply in another thread.

Lately I’ve been trying to throw the whole “timeline” idea out the window and just focus on the great relationship I have with my SO right now.

Thanks for encouraging me even more to hang on to that mindset! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thanks, Mr. Coffee!  Considering I just wrote a post about how I’m driving myself bat$hit crazy waiting for the next step in the ‘process’, this helps rein me in. 

I just have to remember this:

There is NO set timetable. At the end of the day, it comes down to TODAY! Are you happy, does he love you with all of his heart, do you want to spend the rest of your life with him, and would wait for him?

If you can answer yes to those questions… then you’ll be just fine.

And I CAN answer yes πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Love a guy’s perspective – it totally makes sense! Once it’s done, we are glad for all the effort that our man has put into it all.

Post # 7
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223 posts
Helper bee

@Mr. Coffee:LOVE THIS.

You’re so right.  Love is always patient, and kind.  It is never jealous.

When you think of it in that respect, it makes waiting seem so trivial.  It makes being jealous of other’s engagements seem trivial too.

I have recently adopted the live and let live philosophy.  My boyfriend does whatever he wants, whenever he wants.  I find he comes back to me when he feels he is his own person.  Am I hoping this will get me engaged sooner?  Of course.  But I am fine if it doesn’t.  If he’s going to marry me, he will, if not, what’s meant to happen will.

 

THANK YOU!  πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Mr. Coffee: LOVE love your perspective and writing. ty for joining the site πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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493 posts
Helper bee

I SOOOO appreciate your perspective. It helps us waiting bees get through. I can definitely answer yes to those questions. And you’re right about everything you said. I would rather be suprised with a well thought out and planned proposal that’s special and just for ME.

Post # 10
Member
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I love having a guy in the hive. Awesome post, Mr. Coffee!

Post # 11
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193 posts
Blushing bee

@Mr. Coffee:

I agree… Great post. HOWEVER: Your question… “Would you wait for him?” Yes, of course. But for how long?? How long is TOO long? At what point do you say “Ok you know what, this is getting ridiculous. I’ve been waiting for X amount of years and after all the talking and planning about our future, he still hasn’t proposed.”

GVD

 

Post # 12
Member
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I love that it took you 3 months to plan the engagement.  I know my fin got the ring around Feb and asked in May.  The first time he took me to look at rings was in Nov.  It was a big deal for him and he wanted to suprise me and have it be special.  He also wanted to ask my dad in person so that happened in March on a visit to my hometown.  I hope that this helps all of the ladies that are waiting. 

I think good things come to those who wait!  If you truely are meant to be it will work out. 

Post # 13
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Mr. Coffee: I’m so so glad you made this post!!!! it really does put things into perspective for all of us in waiting… I came across one of your posts just the other day, and I must say, I am so excited to see a man getting involved here in the hive! my SO doesnt care to even tell me his interests when it comes to anything wedding.  We’ve been talking about getting engaged for a VERY long time… we both want a short engagement, so I look at things online and am constantly gathering ideas.  But I promise, I haven’t visited any venues or anything yet!!! I can’t even imagine going to do that without a ring on my finger!  keep posting friend and we’re all sure to keep reading!  Laughing

Post # 14
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938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Oh, what a thoughtful post! Thank you Mr Coffee πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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2304 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m so happy that another guy is here. What a thougtful post. I also agree with Gwen, at what point do you say, I waited for years and years, put this just isn’t happening, time to move on?

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