- 5 years ago
Long story short. I have never met my father. For the first 13 years of my life I saw my grandparents every summer. They stopped contacting anyone in my mothers family, including myself when I turned 13.
Literally, not a phone call, not an email, not a letter…And every form of contact we made towards them was ignored. I don’t know why. I have not seen my cousins on that side since I was about 11.
I found one of my cousins (a) on facebook about a year or so back. She is slightly mentally deficient. I’m not sure how, I know she had something wrong with her legs as a child and needed crutches and a wheelchair. Either way, I reached out to her and call or text now and then telling her I love her and what not.
Cousin b I’ve been in contact with for the last 2 years on Facebook also, She is kind of a step cousin I guess? Not blood related to my Dad, I know that. She doesnt talk with that side of the family either.
I literally thought my grandparents were dead. Until today when my cousin (a) posted “Grandma and Grandpa Smith are here today! Going to watch disney movies just like we did when when I was little!”
I was utterly heartbroken. I admit I posted so on facebook.
“Really sad my Father’s family will never see or meet the love of my life, our future children or come to my wedding. No Cousin A and Cousin B, I’m not talking about you.”
Cousin A posted like, 20 minutes ago about how mean I am and maybe once in 13 years I could have called them.
Well. I did. I tried. They never called me. All my letters were returned to sender. All emails ignored.
After that her Mother posted on the thread calling my mother all kinds of horrible things, that she was a gold diggin whore and everything else. (my mom never even tried to get child support from my dad. So dont know about the gold digging whore part) So I deleted the post I made entierly.
I’m still devistated that my grandparents are alive and have never contacted me. I told SO and he said
“They were never apart of your life up to now. If you want them at the wedding, ofcourse they are welcomed. But I think you might be bringing up some past family fight you don’t want to be apart of or to come to a head at our wedding. I’ll support you in whagtever you do, but dont be surprised if there is drama”
I’m just so sad, I will have no male head of my family walking me down the asile. I can/will have my Mom’s Brother and my best friend of 21 year’s father both walk me down the asile. But I’m still sad no one in my Dad’s family cares enough to even ask about the wedding….
OR TELL ME MY GRANDPARENTS ARE ALIVE.
I don’t know what to do. Should I just leave well enough alone?