Post # 1
My parents were both the youngest of 10 and 11 kids. So all of my cousins are married. Growing up and until not so long ago I remember going to their weddings with my parents. Many changes have happended in my own family in the last 4 years. My mom passed away 4 years ago. My sister divorced a year ago, and my dad just re-married last month. I’m feeling so sad and un-supported by my own cousins. My wedding venue is a little far 1:30 hrs away. Still I see that they go to concerts in the same area, etc. Why are they not supporting me? Maybe its just the bride brain talking but I’m sad.
Post # 3
Some people have other priorities and your wedding isn’t one to them unfortunately. If anything, it shows who cares about you and who doesn’t, which is petty but that’s how life goes. It’s perfectly ok to feel sad that they don’t support you. Enjoy the company of those who do make it there to be with you and try not to think about the rest. It’s not your fault they chose to do something else, so try not to feel bad or guilty.
Post # 4
I also had a large number of cousins not come to my wedding (for various reasons) and you know what? You will have a fabulous time with those who are there to support you. You really will. You will also remember who was there- who danced with you and who hugged you goodbye at the end. It’s their loss for not coming, not yours.
Post # 5
@PinkPinstripes: Thanks, you made me smile.
Post # 6
Please don’t think that they don’t care about you. That is just an unfair assumption.
Sometimes we forget that people have all sorts of things going on in their lives that we may not be privy to. Guests almost always incur expenses to come to a wedding- even one that is a 1.5 hr drive. Women especially feel that they need a new dress, shoes etc and they may or be able to afford it. If they attend the wedding, they may also feel more pressure to bring or send a gift now, rather than at a later time.
Give them the benefit of the doubt that they care about you but for one reason or another they cannot attend. You will likely find yourself in the exact same position some time in the future.