Post # 1
Basicly ive read so many posts on here, and in magazines, and everywhere really of people saying,
Im not happy with my ring, its not a diamond, its to cheap, i thought he would pay more etc etc.
It just frustrates me. My fiance didnt spend a fotune on my ring and he chose it himself with out asking me or finding out what i would personally like and i absolutly couldnt love it more, not because of the ring itself but because he even wanted me to wear an engament ring from him in the first place, it absolutly doesnt matter to me how much it cost, where it was from, what shape it is, what size it is or if it has a diamond or if its fake.
I just love my ring because its from him and he choose it for me becuase he likes it and he loves me enough to want me to marry him in the first place 🙂
Anyone else ever feel like this or is it just me lol.
Post # 3
We kept a price cap on the engagement ring. My thought was, “I’d rather have a nicer house than a larger diamond!”
Post # 4
@soontobeGray: I would have accepted, and loved, any ring that my now DH would have given me. And I mean that honestly. I was prepared for that actually. But he did ask for my input and in a way I’m glad because I really love my ring.
ETA: We picked out a couple different settings that I liked (he happened to honestly like them, too). I also decided on emerald cut. But he went back on his own to a few different stores to see if he liked any other settings better than the one we had both favored, and he didn’t find one. So he got the favored setting and picked the diamond and size (using my preferred cut). I know nothing of the final cost of the ring or the carat amount. I’m happy that way. I don’t need all the details.
Post # 5
@soontobeGray: I couldn’t agree more!!! Any ring is perfect as long as it is given with love.
When reading all these posts about size and price I was also wondering what’s more important, the man or the ring. When a man really loves you he just knows what you will like and pick that ring (based on what he can afford!)
Another thing: what about upgrading? Is there no sentimental value to the ring he proposed with?
I see you are from the UK and that makes the difference:):):)
Also: diamonds are way cheaper in the US compared to Europe so people tend to get “more value” for their $$.
Post # 6
Thats good for you. Do you want a cookie since you feel that you are much less “materialistic” than other brides? An award?
Post # 7
my SO is going by the C’s of a diamond….ugh….I don’ t want him to spend a fortune. But i told him if he does buy a diamond, i just want an emerald cut….he can do the rest.
Post # 8
Different strokes for different folks. I couldn’t care less if others want a certain cut, price point, diamond/non-diamond/stimulant or whatever other qualifier. Its the between the couple, I’m not losing sleep about it.
Post # 9
I don’t often see complaints about cost, but the idea of asking for an upgrade shocked me at first. I think it’s just a very different jewellery culture than in the UK.
Post # 10
I was actually a little put off that my fiance spent SO much on the ring. As time went on I became thrilled with my diamond but at the time I definitely was like “…we could’ve spent that money on a car!” I never, not in a million years thought I would have a ring that cost as much as it did. I would’ve been happy with one that cost half the price.
My fiance and I picked out the band together and he picked out the center stone on his own, which is what kicked up the price.
Post # 11
@soontobeGray: I feel exactly the same!
My fiance picked my ring without any input from me (actually I think we had maybe one casual conversation about princess vs round cuts ages ago, but we never seriously discussed it). He picked a ring that is more beautiful than what I would have ever imagined. He said he’d been looking around for a while and when he saw this one, he just knew it was it. I love what my ring represents 🙂
Post # 12
My stone (green sapphire) wasn’t the expensive part of my ring, it was the setting and I’m pretty sure that a large chunk of the price tag is because it was designer. I wish the setting had been cheaper, but we both loved it and I really really tried to find something I liked better that was cheaper, and I couldn’t. It wasn’t more than we could afford, but I would have been happier if it had cost less.
Post # 13
DH wouldn’t let me know the cost of the ring; so no I’m not bothered by it. I did have input in that I wanted a specific cut and setting type.
Post # 14
I just asked my SO not to get me a pear shape…that’s what my exDH got me. So you can see my reasoning behind that. I tried to get him to go the more cheaper non traditional direction, but he won’t go for it. Even tried the “Hey, forget about e-ring, let’s get bands and elope”…nah, he won’t go for that either. He wants things done the proper way since this is his first marriage, my second. I need to respect what he wants to do.
Post # 15
i dont think its necassirilly the cost of the ring, its when people moan and say he only paid 50, 100, 200, 500, 1000 and its not want i wanted, or its only got so many diamonds, im not happy, i want to upgrade, how could he do this to me.
I just find it amusing that some people complain when they should be greatful that there fiance proposed and gave them a lovely ring in the first place 🙂
Post # 16
I’ll be honest and I can say that when we were picking out my ring together, it was important that for anyone that saw mine that they didn’t think he was cheap. We weren’t so extravagant as to buy from Cartier/T&Co/HW, but it was very important to him that we picked a very nice ring because he feels it does reflect upon him as a person. So while mine may have cost more than some of our friends’ rings (though certainly not the priciest, biggest in our area), he was just as concerned with the look of it as I was. DH also works in a profession where people are apt to judge based on appearances/material possessions.