Post # 1
Yeah, this happened. Haha.
We went to a retirement party for one of FI’s co-workers and met a friend of another of his co-workers, who we had never met (I’d never even met the co-worker). The conversation started like this.
Her: “Hi, I’m Blah-Blah (can’t remember her name and this seemed fitting – How I Met Your Mother anyone?).”
Me: “Hi, I’m Puppy Love.”
Her: “Oh you two are the ones getting married soon?”
Me: “Yes, June 1st.”
Her: “Good luck with that!” [said with intense sarcasm]
Me: Bewildered look, silence.
Her: “Sorry, I’m on my third marriage, I’m sure it’ll be great.”
That conversation pretty much ended there but later on she cornered us and gave us her “advice” which she thought was quite relevant since she’s been married three times (interesting thought process lady). I can’t quote this conversation word for word but the basic gist of said “advice” was that if FI does anything wrong I need to “keep it to myself and trust that God will show him he is wrong and he will change”. Um…ooookay. Haha I almost died. So I’m going to never tell him I disagree with anything he’s doing and “trust” that God will show him the error of his ways? I think not. I’m a very religious person but I don’t exactly believe this is the way it works. I believe that God uses people as tools to help people. So if my FI does something I disagree with we will have an adult conversation about how I feel and why I’d like things to change (and vice-versa).
I don’t really know what the point was of this post, just an interesting(?) strange conversation that I thought would be funny to share. 🙂
Has anyone else ever gotten marriage “advice” from completely irrelevant people?
Post # 3
@Puppy Love: Thanks for the laugh. I needed that.
WTF is wrong with people offering unsolicited marriage advice anyway? Guess God was on a coffee break when her first two marriages fell apart. Such a shame.
Post # 4
@Puppy Love: LOL
Well… she’s on her 3rd marriage… she has tons of practice so must be REALLY GOOD AT IT by now.
Post # 5
As much as she assaulted you with her opinion your judgement sounds a bit harsh – she’s an irrelevant person?
Post # 6
@JaneyDcat: Right?! I was just dying. I can’t imagine what my face must’ve looked like. Haha
P.S. Shout out to my fellow Minnesotan! 🙂
@canarydiamond: I seriously think that’s what she thought! Unbelievable.
@bella128: Maybe that sounded worse than I meant it, I should’ve said “irrelevant to ME”.
Post # 7
Oh geez! I don’t think sometimes others hear themselves speak.
I haven’t gotten marriage advice like this, but we did get both sides of the spectrum on having kids right before or after we got married. Anything from (right before), “When are the babies coming? How about now?!” to “Definitely wait to have kids for a few years, enjoy your marriage and each other first.” Now, I appreciate people caring/wanting to be involved in our lives, but pretty sure we’re going to have kids when we feel ready regardless of your advice. We can still wait until we’re married like we wanted as well as still enjoy eachother after we have kids.
Post # 8
@JaneyDcat: ” Guess God was on a coffee break when her first two marriages fell apart.” I just LOLd so hard tea almost came out of my nose.
She sounds like a “surrendered wife”… anyone else remember that awful book?
Post # 9
@MadTownGirl: Haha definitely hear you on the kids thing! So funny.
@Rachel631: I have never heard of that book but it sounds like something that would infuriate me! Haha
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@Rachel631: Wow. That is almost comical and super sad. I hope she divorced because she realized she didn’t want to be a “surrendered wife” anymore! Haha
Post # 12
My grandmother married 8 times and she loves to impart marital advice. She never met a man or husband she didnt like. Married 8 times, 2x a widow, and two of them she married twice. We all just roll our eyes.
If she gives me advice I just shake my head and agree and then move on. Of course I would never take it. It is quite funny though some of the things she says..Granted she is 90 now but its still funny.
Post # 13
@Puppy Love: My mother, who is currently on her way out of her 5th marriage. She is a BIG fan of giving unsolicited marriage advice.
Post # 14
doesn’t even have to be marriage. I know a girl who gives relationship advice to everyone (I can’t understand why people constantly go to her for it), having not had a single one work out. one lasted a summer, one lasted 3 weeks. hasn’t had one since.
Post # 15
I actually might take marriage advice from someone on their third marriage than someone on their first.
My father is on his third marriage and it has been amazing. They have been together for ten years now, and their relationship works perfectly..even though they are far from perfect. He completely understands compromise now and the importance of mutual respect and not fighting to be the head honcho in the relationship.
Post # 16
@TexasSpringBride: That is pretty funny! I probably wouldn’t mind it as much if it were a relative or heck someone I had EVER met before! Haha
@badabing88: That sounds like a real treat! Of course most mothers are big fans of giving unsolicited advice about anything aren’t they? 🙂
@strawbs: Oh wow. That would be hard to sit through! Haha
@MissFemmeFatale: I could totally understand that! I mean you know him and his relationship but this was a COMPLETE stranger to us so we have no idea of knowing what this marriage is like (and judging by the initial “good luck with that!” I’m guessing it’s not the greatest). It didn’t help that it was such terrible advice in my opinion.