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I love the Five Love Languages book. Have you ready any of John Gottman's books? Coming from the Marriage and Family field and all my psychology classes he is very well respected, but has some great books available at book stores. I read 7 elements of a highly effective marriage and like it.
The name Gottman isn't familiar, but I've read so much who knows. I'll look into it! I love books. ^_^ Thanks!
The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say "I Do"
i won this in one of the contests here on weddingbee. FH and i read bits and pieces of it at B&N right after we got engaged and found it to be really interesting. i'm still waiting for it in the mail but am really excited about it!
I haven't read these books, but they look interesting in that 'if-i-can't-find-anything-else-to-read-but-my-psych-professors-said-it-was-a-must-read-when-i-get-the-chance'...
Bellenga just mentioned "His Needs Her Needs" in another thread, so adding it her for the sake of having it all together. ^_^
i just finished reading the proper care and feeding of husbands by dr. laura schlessinger. it's obviously more aimed towards women who have been married for some time, but it is entirely helpful. i don't particularly adore dr. laura, but this book is a must (in my opinion). i am not yet married, but this has changed my relationship already! it is really eye opening. if you get a chance, you should definitely check it out--it's a quick read!
Regarding "For Women Only": Looking at reviews on Amazon, it looks like there are parts that might be "shocking" for women to discover about men.
@Liz.Smith- what are your thoughts on it? Was it worth reading? I don't really like to dwell on cheating, etc. so if it has a lot of stuff about how man aren't wired to be faithful, let me know!
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Inspired by janieleigh's suggestion, I stopped by B&N and started reading "Care and Feeding of Husbands." I'm finding it so inspiring. When I was growing up, my mom and I would often sit together and listen Dr. Laura on the radio. Now that I'm older, I really appreciate why my mom liked it so much. Its so nice to have someone speak out against our "me first" culture. I think life, and especially marriage, is so much better when we make others our priority and think of their happiness before our own.
I think some of her best advice is how vital it is to make your family your number 1 priority. She talks about women who complain about being too busy to sit down to dinner with their husbands or too tired to spend time being intimate with them. Her advice is to make the effort and make the time. Clear something off your plate- take time to get enough sleep, etc.
Anyway- longer post than I thought! Just thought I'd share.
@salex19, It definitely didn't say men are wired to cheat! Probably what that's referring to is the fact that men pretty much can't help but *notice* attractive women, and images of women pop in their heads at totally random times, without them even wanting them to.
At one point the author recounts a conversation with her husband about this. He asked her, "Since we watched that movie with Tom Cruise last night, how many times during the day will a random image of Tom Cruise with his shirt off pop in your head throughout the day?" When she said "none," he didn't believe her (at first), and possibly more importantly, neither did any of the other men she recounted the story to. It's so hardwired in their brains they can't conceive that we don't think the same way.
I didn't find it that shocking. I was surprised that they're totally aware when an attractive woman walks in, but only because I'm so freakin oblivious to what's going on around me that I would probably never notice a hot guy. But since I'm totally unoffended when he checks out a girl (as long as he's not an a** about it), it didn't bother me. I know it would bother some women.
All that to say, it was totally worth reading! My second favorite book on relationships I've read. I had a lot of "really, that's what you're thinking?" moments, but none of them were upsetting. It's really helped me a lot!
I agree with WeddingKitty - I recommend Love and Respect. Now I will forewarn you that plenty of people bash this book on Amazon and I was really hesitant to read it. I really enjoyed it and felt like there were some eye opening parts for me personally.
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I just finished The Go-Girl's Guide To The First Year of Marriage by Julia Bourland, and i really enjoyed it. It's written with a lot of humour, but also contained some really helpful advice. It helped me get excited about everything that's coming after the wedding! I especially liked her advice that you and your hubby take 2 vacations together a year - 1 weekend away, and 1 longer trip - and that they JUST be about you. No incorporating family visits etc, just re-centering your relationship on each other. It's a quick read, but it's well worth it. I'm definitely going to get my FH to read some of the chapters, and I'll pull it out a couple of months after the wedding and do a refresher course!
I received this book from my future mother in law. Titled "Conscious Bride" I don't know who the author is, but it brings to light the "dark underbelly" of getting married, all the loss and death (death of the maiden) and the rebirth (married women).
This book also recommends a few other too. I found that this book had a lot of good things and it brought to light previous experiences in my life such as leaving for college and explained the actions of my father..etc
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Anyone got recommendations for good marriage/relationship books?
I read *constantly* and lately I've been reading some marriage books, mostly as bathroom reading, lol. Breaks it up into easily understood bits. ^_^ I like reading books on marriage because it's helping me stay focused on the fact that May 23rd is about our MARRIAGE, not just our wedding. And I've learned some really amazingly good stuff.
But now I need new reading material. So anyone read any good marriage books lately? My faves that I've read so far are The Five Love Languages (I *seriously* recommend everyone on the planet read this, it's absolutely amazing, and I guarantee you it's given us both info that will make a difference in whether or not our marriage succeeds), For Women Only (he read For Men Only), and Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. I'd recommend them all. Now what do I read next? ^_^
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