(Closed) Marriage class … omg what should I expect? We are going tomorrow! …

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

we just did our catholic 1-day prep last weekend…it was actually interesting and not bad. different couples talked on different topics like NFP, the sacrament of marriage, conflicts, finances, eetc. we also had a workbook that we had to do some different exercises in, and a video we watched. it wasn’t bad AT ALL, we actually got something out of it and felt really good after it was over! and they let us out early 😉

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Good luck, that doesn´t sound so bad

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We sooooo appreciated our marriage prep!  We did the weekend retreat Engaged Encounter & it was really an eye-opener for us both – & we’ve been together for 11 years (living together for 9), so there’s something in it for everybody.  Granted there was a bit of “leap of faith” to it…it helps if both of you buy into the idea that this is going to help, not just be a requirement you need to get over with. 

And we did get a “diploma” of sorts!  But the best part was coming out of the retreat with a deep sense of unity as a couple.  Good Luck!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We went to the Catholic marriage prep. To us it just seemed like we were preached to for 6hrs that “Sex=Marriage, Marriage=Sex, You MUST perform ‘the marital embrace’ that night because your marriage won’t be valid until you do”.

I went to Catholic school from pre-school all the way through high school. We never talked about sex except for like one or two days in health class. For me there was a HUGE disconnect where I went from never talking about it in a school/church setting to talking about it for 6 hours straight.

I guess because of my previous experiences, I was incredibly uncomfortable the whole time. I really had hoped it would be more about starting out as a new couple, problem-solving, communication and learning to connect with one another. I guess I was expecting more of a workshop and the delivery was a lecture.

We got the workbooks and have been doing those and meeting with our mentor couple and that has been more helpful. They actually asked us what we thought about the class. We were honest with them and they said they thought it was too much sex-talk all at once especially when the class was to be the beginning of the marriage prep. I thought these courses had to be pretty standard but it seems from the comments above that that isn’t exactly the case. Hopefully yours will be more like the other bees’ experiences!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

we initally looked into this for a aussie wedding (before we eloped) and the questionaire was very good, covered everything from sexual positions that either one of us said was out of bounds to finances, owning a dog and if children should have chores & allowances.  even though we didnt do the marriage class in the end (there was no requirement for us to do it) we still talked thru it so it was a good thing. the questionaire also had stuff like ‘does gaining 50lbs warrant a reason for divorce/cheating” ect and it also discussed email/online friendships and cheating perceptions also.

edit: just looked at my old copy. it covers things like commincation, conflict resolution, money, itimacy (thats where the sexual position question is), extended families, health, religion and then other matters – it really was quite interesting.  to be honest, it was almost like an application form to be the others spouse

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

7  hours sounds really intense!

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