Marriage Convalidation

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
11 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Sunshine10:  We’re going through the convalidation process (outdoor ceremony in August), and we basically just need to complete the same prep work (paperwork, Pre-Cana retreat, FOCCUS, etc) that we’d need if we were marrying in the church. 

I expected an answer like the one you got when I first asked, but my priest agreed that it made sense to do Pre-Cana and FOCCUS before we were married, since we’d get more out of it.  My parish is fairly relaxed/liberal, though, so that may be the difference?  Might not hurt to call another parish to see if they can help you out.



Post # 4
4511 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

there are a lot of threads on here already about this, you should search for some of them. In general, it is VERY frowned upon to do what you are planning on doing – convalidations are there for people who didn’t get married in the Church, but then later realized it was important and now want to have the Church recognize their marriage, NOT for people who just want to get married outside but also have their marriage recognized by the Church. I’m surprised your priest was rather flippant. Really, he’s supposed to take this as a much bigger deal than that and ought to counsel you to NOT do that. Who knows, maybe he knows he is going to get transferred in a couple months (the summer is a very common time for this to happen,) and he will just let the next priest deal with it. But I mean, if he already said it isn’t a big deal, then … {shrugs}

Post # 5
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The requirements to get a convalidation are the same as getting married in the church. Each diocese has different requirements (FOCCUS, engaged encounter, NFP seminar, etc.). For us, we had to meet with the priest first, then meet with the FOCCUS couple at their house twice, then do the engaged encounter weekend, then an NFP seminar, get two witness forms signed, submit copies of our baptismal certificates, and get annulments (we were previously married). Our church also requires a minimum 6 month waiting period.

The church does frown upon what you’re doing but I don’t see why they would tell you no. 

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