Post # 1
We have our first meeting with the Pastor tonight! I have been attending this Church as a child and my Fiance’ has been going with my family and I for the past year or so.
I am getting really nervous for the meeting, I know the counseling will be good but can anyone give me some insight of what to expect? What sort of questions were you asked?
Please let me know how your counseling went??
Thanks so much! 🙂
Post # 3
Our first meeting was kinda like an “interview” questions about how we met, family life growing up, family situations now, stuff like that
Don’t freak, I promise it’s not as bad as you feel it will be. 😉
I don’t know HOW your pastor does it but we are following the book “Preparing for Marriage” with a Leaders guide that our Pastor has.
We’ve really enjoyed the process thus far and even though my FI and I have had a really good relationship & communicate REALLY well considering most, things have come up that we didn’t even think about & we’ve just gotten to grow even closer =)
Post # 4
@runsyellowlites: Thanks so much for the input, that helps a lot! 🙂
Post # 5
I wasn’t looking forward to our “counseling” sessions, but honestly I think they’ve been good for my fiance and I. I feel a lot closer to him each time we leave. The counseling gets some really good dialogue going between us. My fiance has even commented on how he likes the things he’s been learning about me throughout the process. Go in it open-minded and I bet you will take away some things that will make it a positive experience for both of you.
Post # 6
We haven’t started ours yet, but our Pastor did assign us a book about Christian marriage to read before our counseling starts. The book is intended to start discussion about family roles, communication, habits, etc. After we read the book, we’ll start meeting with our Pastor.
Post # 7
The first meeting with the pastor is pretty straightfoward, like the PPs have said. He will ask you how you met, when you were saved, why you feel you are ready to get married, etc. He will generally also talk to you about the importance of waiting to have sex until after marriage and not to live together until marriage. At our church we were required to sign a pledge that said we would wait or refrain for the remainder of our engagement, etc.
We did Preparing for Marriage book with a mentor couple over the course of 4 months. We JUST had our last session last night (the sex talk) and it was actually not horrible. They gave us a set of CDs from Dr. Ed Wheat to listen to called “Before the Wedding Night” that we’re supposed to get through before the wedding.
It will be fine! We loved marriage counseling.
Post # 8
@Ginger123: Our Meeting went really well!! Thanks for all of your support and advice!! 🙂