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How would you feel if he wanted to do the same thing? I'm sure you would be happy with whatever made him happy. And that is how he's feeling :) Try to put yourself in his shoes and hopefully that will make you feel less guilty.
Honestly, you should enjoy yourself. My brother and sister are on the west coast and I, on the east, so I understand the hole. Go enjoy yourself and look forward to time with your mom and sis. He'll enjoy having the house to himself for a little bit.
I'm sure he'll be able to take care of the house by himself, and if not the worst that happens is you come home to a messy house. He'll be fine. A happy wife is a happy life.
He probably won't shower or shave for several days in a row. It'll be awesome.
Last December, my father took me to Germany so I could see my brother, sister in law, my niece and to meet my 2nd niece who was born Aug. 2009. Anyway, we went for a week and I did feel terrible leaving FI behind but you know what? I'm so glad I went. It's only a week. You might feel bad at first, but once you're with your mom and sister...you'll feel much better.
It will be great for both of you and you'll both still have Christmas together. I live very far from home too and spent 8 weeks at home last year! It was fantastic to 'refuel' on family time and it was also wonderful when I came back to then-FI. It's good for the soul to spend time with your family - I find it makes such a huge difference for me and I'm sure you'll find the same for yourself. I think I'll probably end up spending time on my own at home without DH throughout the course of our marriage because it is so important to me (and I'm willing to take whatever time off I need to do it!) although I have to say when he's there with me it's sheer heaven - all the people I love the most in the same place at the same time - amazing...
Don't feel guilty - enjoy it while it lasts and enjoy the reunion with DH when you see each other again!
@mrbee: Great response! I love when my husband leaves because I get to play video games and eat Taco Bell. It's awesome!
Nah don't feel quilty. You need to be happy and he obviously understands that. He'll probably take the opportunity and have a man's week.
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Ugh, so I feel guilty. Here's the story.
I have quite a bit of time off in December (basically, the whole month off). Three years ago, we moved 12 hours away from our families, and I ended up taking it a little harder than I thought. It's been difficult to be away from my mom and sister, and I only get to see them twice a year at most. I'm really close to them, so yeah, it sucks.
My husband really understands this, even though he's not as close to his family. He's been really supportive and lets me talk about it for however long I need to when I feel homesick. He's awesome.
A while back, I casually mentioned it would be great to use my time off in December to stay at my mom's house for a while, and he said I should do it if that's what I want. I immediately starting looking into flights, found a cheap one, and after a LOT of contemplation, and asking the hubs, "Are you SURE you don't care I'll be gone for a week in December?" and he promised me he didn't, so I booked the flight. After I stay there a week, he'll fly out to join me for a few days during Christmas, and then we'll fly back home together. He keeps saying that of course he'll miss me, but he understands that I've been dying to spend more time with my mom and sister, and he knows it will make me really happy.
And now I can't help but constantly feel guilty about it! I feel awful that I'm leaving him for a week to take care of the dog all by himself, and take care of dishes and everything. He still insists that it's fine, and that he'll have boys days and watch his manly movies and play video games and that it's a good thing for me to go home, and I believe him, but the guilt won't go away.
I'm REALLY looking forward to a week with my mom and sister in my hometown, but yeah, anyone have any advice on how I can not feel guilty about it? Maybe it's because I'm leaving the week before Christmas?