(Closed) Marriage Issues/ Being supportive of Husband’s hobby

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Sounds like you two need a hobby/activity that you can do together. Movies & dinner aren’t necessarily going to bring you closer together as a couple.

His training basically sounds like a part-time job- 25 hours a week- which is a pretty significant time away from home. I agree with you- would be nice for his free time and yours to correspond. Can you get a cleaning service, so you two don’t have that issue?

If you two aren’t doing things together, I can see his point of view- “Well, we’re not going to do anything on Sunday anyway, so I might as well train.” I don’t think you’re being irrational- you two just need to figure out more mutual hobbies/activities.

Post # 4
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

you are not being irrational. yes you should be supportive of your husband’s hobby but it is what it is: a hobby = something you do with your spare time. he can’t possibly think that he could spend every waking moment training and assuming that his marriage will do just fine!

Post # 7
36 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have this problem too. My husband is obsessed with sports. He likes college basketball, a few different pro football teams and college football. This weekend for example he watched football switching back and forth between college games and watching the alabama v. auburn highlight reel. It’s really hard because he works nights at a hospital and has been gone for four nights and it’s his first night home and he just asked if he could watch another football game. We never make dinner together, I usually do it when he works nights. He doesn’t really cook unless it is to entertain people. I feel like my home life is so flat and that I fill it with anything resembling a home – food, dinner together, meaningful time.


I told him tonight that him talking to the tv and me sitting next to him is not meaningful time together and he has been working the last four nights so I’d like to spend time with him. He yelled at my about how his biochemistry is off (from working nights) and he is tired and just wants to workout and do something he likes, ie: watch sports.


I feel like we watched sports this week. I guess I’m learning I am not a sports buff at all. Sometimes I have fun watching with my family but I am not the kind of girl who ever makes it a priority to sit down and watch sports unless it is a superbowl party. The only sport I like is baseball (which is the one he doesn’t like to watch on tv).


I don’t know what to do. His friends all like sports too and they always joke about sports and their college days. I’m feeling more and more like an outsider and I’m just so bored with sports!


I just feel like we don’t have anything in common anymore. When we were younger it was a new and exciting to go to a sports event or visit his friends somewhere but now it is so predictable and boring to me. 


I was so excited to have a nice dinner and watch the Voice together (the only thing on tv we both like). I feel totally deflated. I heard that the one similarity in long relationships is having two common hobbies. 


While we are both curious enought to try each other’s hobbies we don’t really have any that overlap. I just feel so sad.

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