(Closed) Marriage questions…???

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

He should let them know asap, and remember boot leave is not guaranteed.  My brothers was revoked for some national security reason that I can’t remember now.  He should invite his commanders as a matter of respect, he doesn’t Have to, but they really love to at least be asked and they may or may not come.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Where did you hear you need to invite the command? If it was somewhere online I’d probably ignore it. If it was from someone who has experience dealing with this particular command I would ask someone close to the command. 

All commands are different, from what I have observed most commands don’t expect to be invited to weddings.

 As for them being mad- I can’t see why they would be mad.. Men and women get married all the time in the military (good for morale!). He should let them know early though, it’s ourtesy. Plus, if they know they can point him in the right direction of getting you enrolled in DEERS and hopefully joining him wherever he’s stationed if that’s what you’re planning. If you’re married you may have an option to live off base/get on the married housing list.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Army, but family in Army, Airforce, Navy, and Marines.  That is why he should tell them now so they don’t revoke his leave for a BS reason, they usually will not for a wedding.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t even notice that it wasn’t your first language, that is the beauty if the internet, you just expect miss typing. LOL.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@TineTine07: My husband joined the military later in life as well- he was 29 ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s awesome your fiance is in such wonderful shape! My sister and dad were in the USMC!

 Honestly, I’ve never heard of commands being invited to weddings. A few of my husband’s guys have invited him to their weddings- but I think that’s more because I was a hired vendor and I would be there (I’m a photographer). I think people realize how expensive weddings are today- I actually think it’s a little rude if commands expect to be invited (but that’s just me!)

 Couldn’t he have accompanied orders to Japan? That would be so cool to live there!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You could definately go with him to Okinawa, Japan- that’s where I am right now with my Airman ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think it depends on the soldiers unit.  When I asked DH if he wanted to invite his leadership from his unit he said HECK NO!  However, had he still been with the unit he was deployed with and was a lot closer to, I’m sure his answer would have been different. 

Your FI does need to notify his chain of command though.  Leave is never 100% guaranteed and if for whatever reason the dates change and your FI tells his leadership he had planned on getting married, he’ll be SOL because he should have informed them to begin with.  Not to mention, there’s a crapload of paperwork he’ll have to complete, find family housing, and a bazillion more things he’ll need to do.  His leadership will be able to point him in the right direction!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

you don’t have to invite anyone. 

just register with deers and bring the paperwork to his admin staff when he returns.  

and there are plenty of people that would say marriage in the miltary isn’t good for morale ๐Ÿ˜‰  (A previous Commandant of the Marine Corps wanted to make it against policy to marry before certain age/rank….but that obviously never went anywhere)

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