- 2 weeks ago
I understand the frustration that comes with being young, DH and I are a young couple as well (23). While, yes, it is frustrating, it is also something you are always going to face. People are going to remind you and it is something you will need to accept. My cousin is 33, recently got engaged, and her aunt’s response was “But you’re sooo young!” And she is still young! Point being, whether you’re 23, 28, 30, 40, whatever, this is a response you may get. There is no harm in it, just a response.
As other bees have stated, I think one of the most important things is to feel comfortable talking about anything and everything with your partner. This is not to say that you should bombard him with wedding planning (which I don’t think you intend to do… I’m just saying) but you also shouldn’t feel uncomfortable talking about things that revolve around engagements/marriage. Have you explained that you want to have a pressure-free conversation about these things with him? Talking about your future shouldn’t be uncomfortable.
When DH and I were dating, we had open discussions about getting married often, it was an exciting topic and we both brought it up in equal amounts, but he certainly wasn’t focused on little details of a wedding, ring style, etc. He was excited for the big moments: a proposal, saying “I do,” waking up as husband and wife, things like that. Why don’t you try telling him that you feel like you are censoring yourself, then gauge his reaction and address the topic as needed. If he is comfortable, then that is great! Continue the conversation! If not, maybe ask him why he feels uncomfortable or if he feels like you are pressuring him.