(Closed) Married 1 month: Sleeping Issues

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

A huge bed! We just ordered a california king, after about a week of sleeping in a queen together!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

It just takes a while to get used to sleeping with another person. We’ve been sharing a bed for over two years and it honestly took a good six months until we fully got used to how each other sleep. And to make matters worse for us, we have a dog that sleeps between us. 
If a month or two later you’re still having these issues, splurge for a king bed if you can. That would give you both a bit more room.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I suggest getting a bed that doesn’t allow a lot of motion transfer. My FI and I bought a new matress like that when we moved in together. Neither of us realized how much this mattered to our sleep schedule until we went on vacation and slept on the bed in the hotel room that definitely didn’t have this feature! Neither of us got any sleep that night!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely put aside for a bigger bed! We had a double originally, and while we tolerated sleeping together, I lost a lot of sleep (as he was a sleep kicker). When we bought our house, we got a king.

I don’t think I could not have a king bed anymore – but we also have at least one dog that sleeps in the bed, and the other sometimes comes up as well.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve never had sleeping issues, even though I never lived with FI the weekends that I stayed over it just seemed natural, even when he had a tiny twin bed. we do joke around about me stealing all the covers for myself etc but no actual issues. my suggesttion would be to buy a bigger bed?

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I can’t wait til we can afford a king size bed!! Although, I can tell that I am used to sleeping with someone else in the bed, because I went away for 4 days, slept in a queen size bed, and didn’t move from my spot the entire time!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The only bad part about the kin size is that it will seperate you.  So if you like to cuddle a lot, this bed will keep you at seperate ends.  I find I sleep better when the FI turns of the tv. Which he does not like to do.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It just takes a while to get used to.  FI and I share a full sized bed (I know–TINY!), but we make it work!  We also have a kitty that loves to sprawl out at the foot of the bed, taking up even more room haha!

Funny story–when FI and I first started sleeping together, he had this weird habit of rolling over in his sleep and plunking his elbow down right on my face.  Happened almost every night.  Very funny trying to fix THAT problem lol!

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Aww you two will get used to it girly.. It seems different at first but you will get used to each other in the bed and sleep like babies 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do you have a guest bedroom?  DH works nights, so I mostly sleep alone. But when we are in bed together, I wake up several times a night.  He snores, he coughs, he turns, and eventually, he ends up on my side either pushing me to the edge or lying half on me. Our guest bed that I can retrieve to has been my life saver!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would also suggest ear plugs. I’ve realized it isn’t so much DF in bed with me that keeps me awake, its his heavy breathing, snoring, coughing, etc.

Foam ear plugs are a life saver! I just have to be sure my phone is on vibrate to wake me up!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it takes awhile to share a bed. When DH and I shared a bed as bf/gf(he would stay the night), he used to often roll into me and accidentally wack or hit me hard with his arm while he was sleeping! Now that rarely ever happens. Occassionally he will be sleeping on my pillow, and I would wake him up enough to get him to move back over, etc. That also happens less and less now.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’ll get used to it eventually.  My guy and I have the same problem.  I am completely motionless when I sleep.  I wake up in the exact same position I feel asleep in.  My guy needs to toss and turn for like 20 minutes before he can get comfortable and he wakes up at least twice a night to get up and pee.  It used to be so frustrating and sometimes it still is when I am having trouble falling asleep anyway, but for the most part after 1.5 years of sleeping together we have gotten used to each other.  I still want to get a latex bed though.  I work for a mattress manufacturer that makes exclusively latex beds and I can not wait until I have enough money for one.  So ridiculously comfortable and you can’t feel anything moving!

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