Post # 1
We have been married 2 months, settled back into life and now we both keep talking about our future kids. Great right?
Nope. In reality we won’t be ready for kids until next fall. We are ready financially and in our relationship except for two things.
1. A few months before our wedding my grandmother had a series of strokes. One was massive and we thank god every day that she made it through, but she is still very disabled. She is in rehab now and will be ready to go home in about a month but my grandfather is not handling it well because she will need a lot of care and he doesn’t know if he can handle it. As a social worker and someone who knows our health system in great detail I am helping him cope and navigate our confusing system, but it is taking a lot out of me and my emotions are all over the place. Until she is settled back home, I just don’t have the emotional capacity for children.
2. With the wedding, working full-time and then my grandmother I had to put my master’s degree on hold. I took a leave of absence for the current semester, but I return to complete my thesis in January. I have a good 6 months left of writing so I will likely be ready for convocation in Fall 2014.
A month before our wedding one of my bestest friends told me she was pregnant with her second child. YAYAYAYA I am so overjoyed for her. And of course, having a pregnant friend really ignites the baby fever because we had been talking about what it would be like to be pregnant together. Oh what fun dreams to have.
Anyway, how do you cope with the baby fever knowing that you still have a minimum of 8+ months before you can actually start trying? I’ll take anything you got!
(now that I think about it, it might just be the motivation I need to get this thesis done!)
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Ask your friends with babies / little kids about how miserably sleep-deprived they are. Works like a charm for me!
Post # 4
@lolot: Haha Nice! Okay I’ll keep asking about all the not so rosey moments of parenthood 🙂
Post # 5
@SillyStacey: i am of no help, i Have full blown baby rabies!
Post # 6
@SillyStacey: Same here, except I’m counting down days till the WEDDING still! So of course that’s an easy deterrent for me. I would say that you should focus on how precious alone, quiet time is right now. Your freedom to do whatever you want without a child. Think of all your favorite things and then imagine trying to do them with a baby having a screamfest.
Post # 7
Girl I am right there with you – except we’re not even married yet! For me I suspect we’ll start trying not long after the wedding next September, having been together and talking about it forever. But the baby fever is strongggggg!
I agree with PPs about hearing about sleepless nights/poopy diapers/etc… But it only half works on me!
Post # 8
@Miss Joker: Baby rabies! Amazing
@Andthepupmakes3: Yes, that is very true. A scream fest while trying to craft – or trying to craft period would be a pain in the a** with a baby.
@AngieLuvsAdam: Oh no! I hope you can start as soon as the wedding takes place. It’s so funny. I didn’t even want kids for many years, then Bam! Baby Fever!
Post # 9
I am pregnant with horrible morning/all day sickness and trying to go to nursing school. Please wait until after you finish your Master’s degree!! The pregnancy will be alot more fun if you are past any stressfull times.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Staying busy is the best thing you can do for yourself. I’m becoming a master of self-distraction. Currently I’m planning our summer vacation.
Post # 11
@FutureMrs.Lord: Good advice! I hope you feel better soon. I hear morning sickness is terrible.
Post # 12
@SillyStacey: I won’t even be married until August 2015, I don’t live with FI yet (long distance due to work), yet I already am dreaming about having a baby lol. And we probably won’t be ready for about 5 years!
Post # 13
I’ve had baby fever for the better part of two years, but we wanted to get married and buy a house first before having kids.
Well…we ended up closing on our house the day before the wedding, so since the wedding, baby fever has been horrible! Especially since the day we moved in, DH designated one of the bedrooms as “the baby’s room”. It’s a sad empty room right now with only our halloween decorations sitting on the floor because we’re too lazy to put them in the attic.
We decided to wait until after the holidays, and start TTC in January, so we could get settled in our new house and enjoy the holidays without the possibility of morning sickness and Dr. appointments if we were to conceive quickly.
So far, I’ve kept myself busy with decorating the house for Halloween, Thanksgiving, and now Christmas. I do lots of crafts, babysit my nieces, and we are still unpacking boxes and organizing things. Stay busy…that’s how I deal!
Post # 14
I have baby fever too. Just got married less than a month ago. We can’t TTC until the fall at the earliest as well because my doctor is on a leave of absense until then and I don’t want to see a stranger. DH also may be going back to school, which would be a minimum of 2 years. If that ends up working out for him, we will probably wait until after he’s graduated and has a job. I want him to be happy, and I am supportive. But there’s a small part of me that doesn’t want to wait that long to have kids!
Post # 15
My baby fever has reached an all time high! Don’t know if this works for anyone but I have a secret baby clothes stash and I find buying something cute every now and then makes me feel better! We have an “animal” last name and I’ve gone loony buying ANY and EVERY baby item with that animal on it. I have no self control! But it gives me some sort of satisfaction 🙂 Good luck girl!
Post # 16
I know since getting married I have it to a small amount but I think I have it mainly because I am bored and when ever I get on Facebook everuined I know is popping out a baby. But what I am using as a deterrent is the fact that I got one of those long term birth control that would be to much of a hassle to take out for now. So far it working well for us because in most ways we aren’t ready for kids and want to be married for a while and settle down before we start popping out and the birth control is preventing us from starting along that path.