Post # 1
After we eloped, my family started to call us when we returned (mom, sister 1). I think I calld sister 2 personally, I forget. I called some of my friends up individually to share the trip and how the day went.
H’s sister has not talked to us yet and we got married 5 weeks ago. We all get along famously and have even vacationed as one big family.
I mentioned to H one lazy evening that maybe he can call his sister now, but he feels she should call him.
I am not aware of any etiquette on this matter.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I think he should call her.
Maybe she feels left out or is upset she wasn’t able to celebrate with you? Did you tell your families that you were eloping before hand?
Post # 4
@sienna76: Yup! He should call her.
Post # 5
Yes the families all knew before hand. His side knew what a dramatic stressful journey my family induced, and how everyone’s lives were not conducive for travelling this year (including SIL, she was foreclosing on her house right around our elopement, her H was out of a job since Jan 2012 and they have two small kids), so we eloped to save everyone any grief or hassle, plus my family said up front they couldn’t travel. So what was the point in having an immediate family only wedding if my half couldn’t come?
I asked MIL if SIL was upset and she told me no, that she understood.
MIL and FIL were our only witnesses as they are retired, and the wedding was on a Tuesday in a different country planned in a total of 19 days.
(no family lives in our entire time zone, so not like we can go celebrate with her now)
Post # 6
Given what you said about your SIL you guys eloping is probably the furthest think on her mind, it sounds like she going through a lot. I think your Fi is being a bit ridiculous and over thinking it.
Post # 7
He’s not being pouty about it, I guess he doesn’t find it urgent that they talk on the phone.