Post # 1
Right now my fiance and I are living with my aunt in Washington, DC. Rent here is crazy and it has allowed us to save a lot, probably enough to cover my grad school costs. We pay rent ($400 a month, plus all groceries) and I do all the cooking, including packing daily lunches for everybody. FI helps clean and we help take care of her pets. The plan was originally to move out after our wedding in time for me to go to grad school in Minnesota, but now FI wants to stay in DC other year to get another year of experience at his current job and to allow us to save more money to cover costs while I am in school and he is looking for a new job after we move. It make so much sense logically and it really is a win-win situation for us and my aunt, but is it worth putting off school for another year? And, more pressingly, is it shameful to still be living with family after we are married? For what it is worth, I am 24, FI is 25. Also, we have our own bedroom, bathroom, and living room in the basement of my aunt’s house.
Post # 3
I think you need to think what you what is best for you. It isn’t ideal but it works and that’s what it matters. I know a lot of people feel like school is something you must do immediately and “get it over with” but school is costly! If you and your FI have that plan set-up, I’d stick with it.
DH and I are currently LDR. (We got married while we were still long distance.) And, I am living with my parents right now while DH is living with a roommate. It’s no picnic but it’s the most convenient and prudent for us right now.
Post # 4
What does your aunt say about you staying longer?
Its a sign of the times and this has become the new norm. Children could find good jobs out of high school, get married and support a family of four on a factory job. Those days are gone. The eco still sucks (I dont care what anyone says) and the jobs aren’t around.
If it works for you and your aunt and yoru FI well then thats all that matters.
Post # 5
We’re in a similar situation. We’re moving in with my parents a few months before we’re married, and we’re staying a year to save for a house. At first we wondered if it’d be weird once we’re married, but if we don’t move in and save money we probably won’t have a house for about 5 years. Also we’d have to reconsider having a honeymoon, even though ours is very reasonable. We’ve both been on our own supporting ourselves through college and we’re paying for the wedding. I think you should do whatever is right for you and your husband, but honestly I don’t think it’s that shameful so long as you help out whoever is letting you stay and it’s for a designated timeframe.
Post # 6
@MagNCheese2014: You’re living in an english basement, like most other young people in DC. So your aunt is your landlord, so what? I don’t see any reason why you should leave that situation, honestly, as long as it’s working for everyone.