Post # 1
Hello Married Bees!
Well… my Fiance and I are DAYS (9) away from our wedding and I am starting to STRESS! : )
Our wedding is a full day of events… which means lots of room for things to go wrong… We have pictures at noon, the wedding at 2, with a cake and punch immediately following, pictures after the cake and punch, and an adults only evening reception at 6. We are having a big wedding, which is the reason for the cake and punch reception. We have 750 invited to the wedding and cake and punch, and 350 invited to the Evening Adults only reception.
Anyway, I’m starting to “panic” about all the little things, worrying I’m missing all kinds of things that I haven’t even thought of yet.
So here’s my question/advice needed…. Were you stressing the week before your big day? Any advice you would give someone getting ready to get married? Anything you forgot or wish you would have done differenty? Please share!
Post # 4
Stop thinking about it. 🙂 If you haven’t already taken care of it, it’s not important! Hell, even a good chunk of what you HAVE thought about and taken care of will ultimately be not important.
Make sure your honeymoon information is squared away and maybe start packing (if you are going on one right after) but really, just don’t think about it and enjoy!
Post # 5
I just wish I’d had a schedule, but not something set in stone. Besides taht, just relax and enjoyinh marrying your Fiance. When anything starts to get stressful, just repeat that you’re marrying your Fiance and that’s all that matters. It really helped me.
Post # 6
Wow! what a huge guest list! I don’t even think I know 350 let alone 750! I’m sure you must have a DOC- If not make sure you have a good friend or two who can coordinate all of this for you, the more people who know exactly what you want to happen, the more they can help and the less you have to worry about.
If you have a DOC sit down and talk with her to see if you or she can come up with anything you’ve overlooked
Post # 7
My advice is to come to terms with the fact that something will be forgotten. The good thing is that it won’t be anything important. All the big stuff is done. I promise you the little things won’t matter on your day (maybe afterward but at least you’ll have enjoyed your wedding!). Make sure to remind yourself to take it all in. And, don’t feel guilty if you couldn’t spend as much time as you would have liked with everyone.
The last week wasn’t stressful for me because I had written lists and checked things off. I knew everything was done. Everything that mattered anyway. But I was nervous. Just a bundle of nervous energy. I played it off well though. I had to consistently force myself to not take the nerves out on my Fiance though!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
i was a hot. mess. the week before the wedding. i made a conscious decision the morning-of that i would relax. i would enjoy it. be a sponge– soak it all in. don’t be afraid to relinquish control. let yourself be on cloud nine, and let somebody else deal with any crap that happens. just let it all go and have a BLAST. 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
Have a rough schedule, make sure to tie up any loose ends with vendors a week in advance — I forgot to send songs to my DJ until two days before and as a result, we had a miscommunication about song order and stuff. Not a huge deal, but it would’ve worked perfectly if I had been more organized/detailed.
But try not to stress so much during that week — I had a few little outbursts and they were totally unnecessary!
Post # 10
I had a strict “nothing matters as long as we get married” motto. Of course that made me worry that the rabbi wouldn’t make it or something to stop us from being able to be married, but that’s a lot less things to worry about then everything else wedding related.
Post # 11
I think the biggest problem is it’s hard to visualize how things will actually go down. Sure, you’ve booked all your vendors and have a timeline, but there are so many things you can’t predict like the weather, if anyone gets sick, if someone is late, etc. The week before my wedding I definitely had the attitude that I did all I needed to do in order to put everything in place, so I decided to just enjoy every minute of it since you will remember this time for the rest of your life. YOu don’t want to look back and remember how stressed you were about the details, you want to look back and see a happy, excited bride to be taking in and appreciating every moment spent with those close to you.
Post # 12
I was stressed up until the last week. The last week I had a list of all of the things I needed to do, and I started crossing them off. I had a list of what items needed to go to what places, and put them together in piles in my dining room. That last week, I was a work horse. I wasn’t about stress, it was just getting it done.
Then the day before, I was just done. I went to the gym with a bridesmaid. I went tanning, I hung out with friends in town. We had our rehersal & everything is perfect.
I say it helps to be VERY organized. It keeps you on task & it gets the right things to the right places.
If you have a lot of different places to bring things, take a piece of paper and label at the top each place. Go thru the event that is there, and make a list of everythign that needs to end up there. Do the same with your wardrobe: dress, veil, jewelry, shoes, touch up make up, emergency kit, etc. It helps, beleive me!
Post # 13
I wasnt stressed one bit the week before the wedding. i dont say it to much on wedding bee as most bees are stressin like a messin and i almost feel werid that i wasnt.
Its one day, that was my motto and whatever happens its the next days and the days from then on that matter the most. I wasnt stressed at all bc at this point (a week out) I had no control over anything anyways…so just let it be…forget about EVERYTHING and focus on you and your hubby to be 🙂
Post # 14
-Dont forget to eat! I ate quite a bit throughout the day!
-Something WILL go wrong or not go as planned – dont worry about it – choose your battles and just realize that one small detail will not ruin your entire night!
-Have extra bobby pins and SHOUT! wipes handy
-Try to have everything done a few days before your wedding – I was done with everything (including Out of Town bags) 3 days before my wedding and it was very nice!
-Have a rough schedule and make sure that your bridal party and other VIPs know where to be and at what time
-HAVE FUN and enjoy your day!!!
Post # 15
I was stressed too, but once the week of your wedding arrives, you are just so busy, you will thank your lucky stars in made it down the isle ;o). And things WILL go wrong because they are so far beyond your control.
For example, a snake came out of the woods and started slithering around the groomsmen feet during the ceremony. we had to stop the ceremony and remove the snake. How on earth was I suppose to anticpate or plan for that?
My point is, you can’t possibly prevent things from going wrong, so just go with the flow and try to enjoy your wedding day as much as you can. it goes by so fast, so take a few moments to take it all in. before you know it, it will be over!
Post # 16
I actually totally wasn’t stressing out at all. I figured at that point, if something happens or I forget something, it’s not going to matter that much. I was more stressed about moving 800 miles 9 days after our wedding, 7 of which we were on our honeymoon! At the end of the day, you’re still married and that, despite all the wedding hoopla, is all that matters. You’ll get through it!