Married Bees: Any significant family member not attend your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my sister wont be coming coz she is jealous that i am gettting married first and she hasn’t found the one yet

Post # 4
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My fiance’s sister won’t be coming because she can’t save up the airfare, despite 14 months’ notice (but she just bought an iPad and bought an iPhone for her 8-year-old). Honestly I could not care less on this one; she’s not a nice person and we don’t go out of our way to see her. Between her, her husband and her kid, that’s $500 I don’t have to spend on catering.

My sister-in-law (brother’s wife) won’t be coming. We can’t really figure out why and bro isn’t spilling it. I’m really irritated by this, but not making a stink because it’s not fair to put my brother in the middle.

Post # 5
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

my parents didn’t come, could afford to make the trip (well not really, they just spent it at the casino’s instead of saving it to come)  they had almost 16 months notice too!!!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@CrazyBeautiful1:  My father did not come, however he’s been too focused on his addictions and his own turmoil for years. It wasn’t a falling out, so much as his issues getting in the way of him interacting in a healthy way with people other than himself.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

DH’s half siblings did not come. Not due to a falling out, actually we’re still not really sure why.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had several not come for various reasons. There wasn’t exactly a falling out, but it was still hurtful that they didn’t make the effort to show up for the wedding. I haven’t said anything about it to these family members and nothing in our relationship has really changed since the wedding.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My first cousin, the only one who was my age and I grew up with. He had to “work,” aka probably went to his friend’s wedding he found out was the same day a few weeks beforehand. He works at a bar…

My godparents didn’t come, which wasn’t surprising as my mom had a falling out with my godmother pretty much as soon as I was baptized. It was just annoying that they only told us at the last minute. “Roe, Tom is a musician and as he has a job that day, we won’t be able to make it.”

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

FI’s mom has chose not to attend our wedding. FIL’s are going through a nasty divorce and FI asked her not to bring her boyfriend out of respect to his dad. She got pi**ed and said since he isn’t welcome she will be staying home which is fine by me although I’m sure FI is still upset his mom is acting like a child even though he says he doesn’t care if she attends.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@CrazyBeautiful1:  I remember your post and I’m kinda happy for you that your Aunt isn’t coming. She is not a nice person and do not let her absence rain on your parade. I was afraid she would come and try to ruin it for you.

That being said, my older (half) sister did not come to my wedding nor did my oldest (half) brother. My sister suffers from depression and was having a spell of it. I understood. She missed my shower too. My brother was having financial issues. None of my nephews or niece showed up either, all 5 of them. I was hurt but I knew that those who were there were already destined to be so I let it go.

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My husband’s sister didn’t come because even though they had two year’s notice, they didn’t find a babysitter for her son.  We had an adult only wedding, and I think his family thought we’d cave at the last minute.  But we didn’t and do regret it. 

Post # 14
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3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My grandparents on my mom’s side 🙁

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

My (maternal) grandmother refused to attend and I have not spoken with her since she made her decision two+ years ago. It didn’t upset me the day of the wedding but once in awhile it’ll make me sad that she broke our relationship to prove a point. I think she regrets it but I don’t see us reconciling.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@karatechick27:  It’s not your fault! Two years is more than enough times to make an arraingment. Imagine if they would have showed up with their child and other’s had found babysitters. THAT happened at our wedding: we didnt’ have money in the end for a babysitter so my SIL brought our nephew. Even though they live 15 hours away, my family was PISSED because they did find sitters.

Either way, you’re damned if you do and damned if you dontFrown

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