Married Bees- Anyone unhappy at their own reception?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@californiabride2013:  I wouldn’t say I had a bad time at the reception, but it was pretty underwhelming. I was self conscious in my dress, we were trying to make it around to everyone and get pictures and I was really ready for it to be over.

I’m not stressing about it at all. I’m very happy to be married to my wonderful husband! 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was unhappy for a while. I just wanted to have a drink, enjoy my dinner, talk to my friends, go have some fun in the photo booth, … have some candy. I barley had time for one drink and danced for maybe 5 songs. I barely got to see my new hubby. The family continually harassed me for pictures most of the time. I eventually just started saying no. 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My recommendation is to do a receiving line so only those who WANT to talk will, and do the scandanavian tradition of having two chairs opposite you and hubs so people can chat while you eat. Be firm but polite when it comes to pictures after formal portraits are done and leave the last hour for your own fun. I am a firm believer in enjoying your own party because it only happens once!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@californiabride2013:  what was bad at it?

 

I went to each table to talk during dinner, then no one had to come up to me while we were having fun. 

I was determined to enjoy my reception, and have fun with my new husband.  My bridal party made sure that happened!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was really happy with my reception. I took control early on, toasted to our parents and guests. Made the rounds during dessert and then I think I made it really clear that I was set on dancing the night away. If you wanted a picture with me, you had to be dancing. Luckily, everyone followed my lead and we had a blast. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Mostly our reception is a huge blur! I didn’t have that much to drink but I was just running around dancing and saying hi to everyone so I missed any and all drama (not that I think there was any).

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@californiabride2013:  Hmm my wedding day was a little complicated. I had a mini internal freak out session during family photos, then at my reception my dad kind of stressed me out. I felt an intense pressure to make sure EVERYTHING was perfect and it took its toll on me.

Post # 11
mswallabyBee
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

We had some family dramz the night before the wedding at the rehearsal dinner, and some more dramz with the wedding party the morning of the wedding when the hair and make-up people were 2 hours late – but by the time the reception rolled around I hardly noticed or cared about anything other than my new husband. Your wedding day is about you and your soon-to-be husband – don’t worry about having a good time at the reception. The best advice I can give is to focus on what’s important – the ceremony, committing to each other forever – and let things be. If worst comes to worst, ask another family member or a bridesmaid to help keep “situations” at bay.

Even so… There have been plenty of bees who have posted about their weddings being disappointing. Your wedding doesn’t have to be the best day of your life. I LOVED our wedding and we shared so many amazing moments that day, but if that’s the best day of my life then I’m going to be sorely disappointed…Ya know? That’s what you have the rest of your lives together for. Having our kids, going on amazing trips, starting new exciting jobs – I know those days will be equally if not more exciting (and probably less stressful!) than our wedding day was.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

The reception was underwhelming, but I had a good time, especially as the night wore on. Part of that was because I had a big falling out with a friend a few months before my wedding (his and his partner’s fault), and after not talking to me for a few months, he still chose to come. It was awkward the times I actually had to talk to them and pretend everything was great.

After they left (around 10 that night, I guess when his boyfriend finally had his fill of free booze), it was great. A burden was lifted, so to speak.

I think it’s normal to put so much time and effort into this stuff, and then when it happens, it’s underwhelming and it’s over in a flash.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@californiabride2013:  there was drama with sister during the week, we called each other effing bitches and all that but we put it behind us. she helped me out big time in the morning of the wedding. I was fighting with mom all week and I didn’t get to speak to her at all during the wedding. Not because I was trying to avoid her but because I was pulled right left and centre.

I was disappointed with mom for many things. I rarely see her so when she flew in for the wedding I forget that she’s the person she always was when I left home. She never changed but I did. So the day before the wedding, I was going through so many emotions, like my time with her wasn’t turning out to be the mother-daughter buddying that I suspect happens.

I feeling sorry for myself that there was drama. How can I go into my own wedding mad at mom and all that. Even when we made up a few days before hand everyone knows the heart takes days to really forgive and forget.

I blamed myself for fighting with her as I was really being bratty. She was too old to change her ways I waas being unreasonable to ask.  when I work the events through in my head, I couldnt see myself behave any other. I was under so much stress I snapped. So I went easy on myself.

Try to get the ball rolling in terms of alleviating the drama. If you have to be the first one to apologize so be it. You just want to be in a position to not regret anything. And that is you are suppose to enjoy the wedding with your family and not be in awkward terms with them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@californiabride2013:  what problem are you having with your family? Also depends a lot with which member of the family.. 

Post # 16
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No. I’m sorry you had a rough time, though..

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