(Closed) Married Bees- Did you have a gap?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We had about an hour in between our ceremony and reception which was the Cocktail Hour.  Our wedding was at a hotel so, the ceremony was in one room on the floor and the reception was on the other side, and the cocktail hour was conveniently in between the both rooms.  So all of our guests were there the entire time. 

The string quartet that played our ceremony also played during the cocktail hour.  And we had an open bar, 2 buffet stations of food, and passed appetizers so guests had plenty to keep them busy and fed before the reception.  I might say we might have gone a little overboard with all the food.  Some guests thought that our cocktail hour buffet was the actual dinner, even though there was a 5 course plated meal to come!  But I wanted to be on the safe side…I’ve been to too many weddings where cocktail hour dragged on and there just weren’t enough of those hidden hotdogs being passed around! 

Most of your guests will expect some sort of gap between the ceremony and reception.  Try to get all your First Look and all family pictures done beforehand so the cocktail hour doesn’t drag on.  So as long as you have enough food and alcohol to be served, just relax!  

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I was at a wedding that had a hospitality suite – a room at the hotel with Sam’s Club boxes of water and snacks. They had a three hour “Catholic gap” and the ceremony and reception were in different locations – people seemed to appreciate it, although we found out later not everyone knew about it.

Post # 5
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There was a big gap between ours.. ceremony @2 Reception @6 we went off and got pictures taken. Everyone showed up at the hall around six and we had an open bar and the photobooth guestbook going.

We didn’t provide anything in the gap between, everyone went to other peoples houses or out for a drink.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I think it would be nice to host a hospitality suite at your hotel and just put a note in everyone out of town gift box so they will be informed about it when they arrive at the hotel.  The problem with large gaps like this is that people don’t know what to do with themselves… so they drink.  Every catholic wedding I’ve been to witha big gap like this a lot of people are toasted by the time the cocktail hour starts because they’ve been drinking for hours.

Post # 9
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We didn’t have a gap, not including cocktail hour. Our ceremony went right into cocktail hour followed by reception.

My sister had an hour long gap since her church wouldn’t let her start the cermony after a certain time and the reception site wouldn’t let her start the reception before a certain time resulting in a full hour in between. The two sites were only 2 blocks from each other so she resolved the situation by having a champagne hour in a room upstairs in the church. It was winter time, so guests actually took advantage of it instead of going outside for a walk or something.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Perhaps a footnote in your ceremony program?

Post # 11
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had great intentions of providing people with a map of the towns (we live in a cute small town area/ very touristy), so they could shop around. This is one of the things that never got done. lol . . and it snowed anyway so people wouldn’t have wanted to wander.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had a big gap too. 230 ceremony 6pm reception.  And they were in different locations.  About half the people are from the area where the ceremony was, and about half of the people are from where the reception was.  Most people were just able to go home.  Some changed, some relaxed.  A lot of our friends went out for drinks and snacks.  Not a single person said anything about the gap & I was paranoid after all the things I had read here!

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