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We haven't gotten our photo's back yet but I KNOW there are some that I didn't get.
I know that there were pics I wanted of my shoes with our rings.. but my shoes were still in the box when I went to get them
There were pics I wanted of the bridal party that we didn't get
and until I actually get them and look through them I get to torment myself about reception decor that may not of been gotten.. like my vinyl record seating chart and table number and just little things like that.
The bridal party pics we didn't do OH and more pics of just DH and I... we only did a couple =(
I knew to make a list but the week leading up to the wedding I was just so busy and never made the time to do it ='(
So I feel your pain.
The one I miss the most is with the blusher on me. We're Jewish so we had a special ceremony to unveil, and none of it is there. I don't know why, I saw him taking the pictures! There also aren't a lot of the guests. We didn't dance, just had a dinner, but I still wanted pictures of everybody there. And I have wedding band shots, but none with my e-ring.
Lots! It rained all day, so we couldn't go to the outdoor location I wanted. I had such high hopes, but there was nothing the photog could do. We definitely got some great ones from the reception, which made up for it
@amnystik: oh me too i knew to make a list! i had it on my "wedding to do" list forever and finally deleted it because i never got around to it and i figured it all would be fantastic because i had an awesome photographer! i still feel my photographer was awesome no doubt, but i will forever give the strong advice of making that list!!
@PurpleUnicorn FOR SURE!!!!! that and recording the ceremony.. even if just on a small digi camera or phone!... I knew to do that one too and didn't listen!
@amnystik: oh thank god i did that! Lol, DH and i had our own awesome camera we got as a gift for my bridal shower. i brought it up with one my friends who said their boyfriend wouldn't mind taking a video of the ceremony. i felt bad asking and even said if they just get part of it, i would be happy....but omg, he videotaped the whole thing and i am sooooo happy with it. probably not much less quality than a pro video would have been. i still cry every time i watch it! sorry, i hope that didn't make you feel worse! but to everyone else reading, if you can't afford a pro videographer, its WORTH it to ask a guest to videotape the ceremony if you can!
No worries PurpleUnicorn... I'm good.. it took a couple weeks to get over it b/c I just don't remember alot of the ceremony (going 100 mile an hour for days does that) but DH and I decided the for our Vow Renewal we are SO getting a legit videographer.. figure we'll love each other more and better by that time so it'll be just as great! tehe
Mine is kinda silly - but I'm so bummed out I don't have a picture of my place cards! The ones I stayed up til 2am the night before the wedding writing and hot glueing! I always see a place card 'detail' picture and just assumed my photog (or SOME guest) would take one! But, nope! Didn't happen.
I also wish I had more table / decor pictures - again, I assumed the photog would do that. I have one picture of a portion of the table - but I wish I had more table pictures and flower pictures. Bad assumption, on my part!
I also wish I had a picture with me and all my nieces and nephews - one was sleeping for most of the time - the other was running around... so it never happened, even though I thought it did.
I also wish I had a more creative picture of our rings - our photog too them on this napkin (it was personalized with our last initial, but it wasn't my style (our bartender brought them) and the napkin was kind of wrinkled... just a lame shot - but I can redo that!
@oracle: i feel you on the tables, i assumed a full table pic would be done as well....but hey remember this thread is to also focus on the positive...so what DID you get that you love?! see, while i was upset about not getting full table view and some other details, i realized i should be happy that i DID get my place cards...if there had been no pic of those, i would have been crying about that too! so tell me some pics you do love that you got!
@artbee: you too, tell me some pics you DID get that you love!
I feel the same way.....there were TONS of shots that I know the photographer did not capture....I was married on last Saturday and it's been bothering me so much this week 
@sheebsw: aww, i know it feels. i was having sleeping i was so bothered the first week i got my photos back. it was not until this week that i even started to notice and appreciate i photos i do have.
DH and I actually retook some pics with a different photographer 7 months after the wedding! I didn't have that "living room" shot that I could blow up and put on the wall. There are some really good pics, but I feel so much more comfortable now...no regrets. And it was kinda fun getting dressed up again! The photog only charged $200 because she had done my boudior pics (her wedding costs $3000ish). So it was actually a great deal since it was an hour of her time on a Tuesday.
No pictures of me with my aunts (my fault)
The rest are the photographer's fault:
No pics of us with the kids--just total bridal pictures
Too many pics inside although we had a beautiful day and venue
No pics of getting ready, my dress or shoes (she was late)
Not a single decent picture of my dress. I am holding my oversized, fail of a bouquet in every picture.
My advice to all brides--have one person (one with a very discerning eye) who directs the photo shoot. I have been in/been to a million weddings and if a non-involved person doesn't supervise, too many things get missed.
@Mrs Green Grass: thats awesome! i am having an at home reception (AHR) this summer, so i definitely plan to get lots more shots with me and my BMs (they will wear their dresses again plus i have two BMs who bought dresses but then couldn't come to my wedding!) although they won't be with a pro photog. i am still considering holding off on selling my wedding dress until then. if i do sell it, i have my TTD dress i am planning to wear to the reception. But it would better i got the pics with my real wedding dress!
I didn't get much of anything that I thought I would... :( I was so sad about it.
EDIT: I AM so sad about it still, and I've been married 4 years now. : /
I honestly think after reading some of the posts here, and going back to her website constantly both before and after my wedding...that the photos I had seen on her website were not hers. I think the ones on there NOW are, because they are all crap. lol (IMO)
But I feel like I can't really complain too much, as I only booked her low end package... as that was all we could afford! Still.... I think MOST of what we did get just was horrible. And that isn't okay, even if we weren't paying more. :( Good thing I had a cousin that loves photography and got some great ones of us! Otherwise we wouldn't have any.
Sooooo... lol.. Be glad for the amazing ones you did get, I think anyway. :)
i am one of five kids, and am really close to my siblings, and did not get a picture with just my siblings!
i really wanted a crazy pic with just us kids (without our parents our boyfriends/girlfriends) but that never happened.
i really wish i had one. :(
@ApplePie: Awww, i am sorry to hear that! sounds like you have an excuse to do a vow renewal next year, lol! at least like you said, you have some good pics from your cousin's camera.....i was upset my photog didnt get an overview of my tables, but my guests did and they turned out great, so i am happy about that. a guest also took a pic of me holding up my ring pillow i love so much. what i am most sad about is that i wish i had more and better pics of me and my BMs on the beach....sigh. i have good days and bad days thinking about it.
We did not get ONE of my family together (ie immediate family) and yet there are several of his family..
There are always going to be some shots you did not get- so you either need to do a recreation (dress up and do the pics again), or move on, because you will drive yourself nuts thinking about it- trust me : )
My husband and I did make a list of all of the pictures we wanted and we got everything on the list. But . . . I forgot to mention that I would have liked a picture of just me in my dress with my bouquet. It never occurred to me to put that one on there. It seemed like such a standard shot. Oh well.
@bluegreenjean: ya, i was beating myself up on not making a list, but i realized some things i wanted i may not have even put down! oh well. the more i look at the pics, the more i love them.
@PurpleUnicorn: thank you for posting this. Makes me feel I'm not alone. =)
I have a semi sort of solution to this issue.
When I ordered my thank you cards from Shutterfly, there was a place to put a note or notes in each card. I put the following in the top inside portion of each card:
We would like to apologize for taking so long to get this thank you card to you. We wanted to wait until we received our pictures from the photographer before we sent them out, so we could include the link and password to our pictures for those of you that would like to see a recap of our day.
Link: (the link to our photographers page that has our photos)
Password: (our password)
We are also asking that if you took any pictures at the wedding to please send them to our email address in jpg format, so that we can add them to our photo album. There are a few important pictures that we are looking for that our photographer lost, so we would greatly appreciate any pictures that you would be willing to send our way.
Email address: (our email)
We are hoping that by including this note with our thank yous that we will be able to recover some, if not all, of the shots that were missed and/or lost.
@xshellx2003: no problem! i was feeling the way you were and i thought this could help a lot of bees!
For both of my daughter's weddings, neither photographer took a picture of the entire room set up before the guests entered. Neither got one picture of even ONE table in its entirety, and only took closeups of each individual component.....favors,napkin and napkin ring, table number,partial centerpiece. I specifically asked each of them to go to the venues and get those particular photos. I also only got open pages of the guestbooks and none of the entire table showing placecards,flowers,outside of books.
Neither took pictures of me alone with my daughters either. None helping with veils,jewelry,shoes.....who misses the MOB??? Even family shots were too one-sided (and not on OUR side!)
Even tho many brides insist on not getting the old-fashioned 'posed' photos, maybe that's why the photogs take artistic license and do what they want. :(
This hasn't happened to me personally, but at my friends wedding where I was MOH a few months ago, the photographers really missed so many opportunities! There were 2 photographers and the didn't get a single shot of the bride with all the BMs. I thought that was so strange! You usually see pics all the time with the bride and her girls, or the groom and his guys...but nope! The only pics my friend got of all of us together were the ones I personally took myself so that she could have some!
There were no pictures taken of me with my husband's family. There are a couple of me and DH and his parents, but none with his siblings/extended family. There are also none with my family and DH. I'm not really heart-broken over it (definitely a little annoyed with myself), but my MIL is still upset about it (upset with herself for forgetting, not with me).
@Mrs Sarah McK: hopefully you got lots of pictures that you did love though
I'm so nervous now that I'm gonna be missing picutres.
i really wish i had more individual pictures with family members like my mother father and brothers - i had a bunch of my sisters since they were BM's. and a few family shots but none of of me with just my brothers or just my mom
I also wish i had a lot more pictures of just me and my husband - i have some and there are tons of us together with other people, buti really wish i had just a handful more of just the two of us.
one other thing, i wish i would have had more pictures of my venue - it was a regular hotel ballroom but we made it so beautiful and one wall was all windows with doors to a patio with fire pits and christmas lights and i have hardley any pictures of it, it was very beautiful.
on the plus side, i got TONS of usable photos which is great - there were only a handful that didnt turn out so great either due to lighting issues or people's eyes being cloesd - that sort of thing...
There is just one photo I really wish we had and we don't. Our venue was 2 stories and had a cut-out between the two so that you could look down on the dancefloor from above. When talking to my photog before the wedding he asked me for any photos I really wanted and I said I totally trusted him to use his judgment but the ONE photo I had stuck in my mind from the day we booked the venue was I wanted an ariel shot from the 2nd floor of our first dance.
Well the day came, there were 2 photographers (our photog brought a 2nd) and both of them stayed firmly on the 1st floor through all the dances. It was pretty disappointing since it was literally the only thing I asked for. But I"m sure he just forgot. It sucks but I'm over it. As it turns out my favorite picture of us from the whole night is of us during our first dance so I just tell myself if he'd been upstairs he might not have gotten the other one I loved so much.
Pictures we missed:
DH and I with each set of grandparents
Cocktail Hour (we were doing our Ketubbah ceremony during cocktail hour, so our photographer couldn't be two places at once).
Shot of the full room without anyone in it
Pictures we got:
TABLE SHOTS!!!! My mom always says she regrets not having pictures of EVERY table at her wedding because she has no idea who was there. A lot of people say it's an inconvenience for your guests to take them, but for 2 minutes of inconvenience, we have a picture of every single guest at our wedding.
DH with his friends from highschool in the same position as the one they took at his senior prom (where I was his date) - 12 years later
Me and my friends from highschool with all of us doing the same crazy poses we did in one of our prom pictures - 10 years later
The perfect "I now pronounce you man and wife" kiss picture
Picture of DH feeding me a cookie (we had gourmet cookies instead of cake)
@basketballwifetobe: dont be! learn from this and speak up ON your wedding day - if i had known this was so common, it would have been more at the forefront of mind to direct a few pictures myself!
@PurpleUnicorn: THANK YOU for starting this thread. I am due to meet with my photog next weekend, and kept reminding FI to make his list, mostly b/c I kept forgetting about making MINE...so sat down tonight to make a list a few hours ago, and then stumbled upon this thread. So I've gone through adding ideas that people said they wished they'd gotten. So thank you, thank you!
There was so much going on and soooo many photos that I wanted, that I didn't realize we had missed some until after it all was said and done. I really have no complaints tbh, but there are some pictures that I really would have liked to have that I just don't. Like a picture of my dress hanging up or more of me getting dressed, picture of my mom, dad, me, Anton, my brother and his family (we got one of me and my parents and one of us and ALLL of my family including extended family, just not one of the immediate family unit), one of just my dad and I goofing off or something, one with my FIL, one of my just hubby with his father and then one with just his mother. And I didn't get any pics of my gingersnaps and blueberry muffins! Oooh And a pic of my girls and me having fun!
Like I said though, we got a TON of amazing shots and if we'd had anymore then I wouldn't have had room for them in the photo album! lol So not REAAAALLY a complaint, just a passing whisp of sadness. :P
@Angelique02: Make up a list and make sure that a responsible person that you trust has a copy and brings it with him or her on your wedding day. They can't really do anything about the candid type of shots, but they certainly can keep track of any formal or fun shots that you want to take afterward!
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so i started a thread last week during my time of obsession when i first got back my pro photos and all these things came to me that i realized i wanted but never spoke up to say, or some things i thought would be a given. i was in agony for a few days over this, and still sometimes when i see other people's wedding photos, i get a little pang of "oh i really wanted a pic like that..... :( "
and well it makes me feel better to know that i am not the only one this happened to. I guess just knowing that its common, nothing can be perfect, and it happens to everyone somehow makes me feel less frustrated. So i thought a little poll would help us all in this situation.
so vote and/or share your stories here on what you wish you got, but let's also share some positive stories and help each other focus on what we DID get!
So while i did not get a full length pic of me and my BMs on the beach, or a photo of my shoes on feet, or rings on ring pillow (and the ring shots i do have, my heart shaped diamond is upside down), or an overview of my table decor, or DH and BMs.....i DO have awesome photos of my bouquet toss, first kiss, walking down the aisle together and walking out together, a TON of awesome photos of my DH and I on the beach and around the resort, the bridal party on the beach, some random great shots of the guests, our first dance, my programs, box of bubbles, the bonfire, our gorgeous cake, my menu cards, close up of my centerpiece with table name, place cards (sea shells in sand box), my dress hanging up, and of course....my freakin' awesome TTD photos!!
so what about you? (let me know if there is a poll option i should put but didn't)