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try not to please everyone or take everyone elses wishes into consideration - its not possible so save yourself alot of trauma and just make your plan and stick to it
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Don't sweat the small stuff. And hang out on Weddingbee - I knew this one, but I got so much planning advice that I don't have any regrets about wedding planning at all! Good luck!
Don't worry so much! I felt like I spent a lot of time worrying about what other people would think!
Have fun and enjoy the moment!
Try not to splurge too often--not all of it will get noticed (nobody cared about my pamphlet programs, my hand-painted monogram aisle runner, etc...and i have no pictures to prove it!) and I could have saved myself al ot of time and effort and money by not having to do *everything* so spectacularly.
Accept help!!
Friends and family genuinely want to help the bride and it's ok if not *everything* is done exactly the way you have it pictured in your head. I learned that the hard way.
I think I would have saved myself a lot of stress if I let my friends and family share in my wedding planning joy and asked/allowed them to help with the planning and DIY projects.
Elope! No but seriously, don't try to please everyone, it only leads to disaster. Do what YOU want, not what your friends, family or guests think best. But seriously if we would have eloped like we wanted, I would be in a much happier state with some family members. They can turn into satan at weddings!
No matter how far in advance you plan, there will be stuff that comes up at the last minute. Don't stress yourself out too early.
I couldn't agree more with the need to Accept help!!
Also if you plan to DIY plan ahead and don't wait until the last minute, and if you do wait until the last minute like I did...then see the above point and take all the help you can get!
Most of all...keep in mind the it's all about the relationship you and your FI have, everything else is just "details"
If you have a vision for something, don't let go of that, despite how many people may discourage you. I can't tell you how many times people said that my dress, my boots, my lighting scheme weren't going to work. To them, I say "Pshaw!" Who's naysaying now?
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While it's good to have fun with the little details and special touches, don't get to wrapped up in them. In the end they really don't matter and you really won't care that the lemonade was served out of a blue cooler rather than your pretty glass containers or that all of a sudden you don't have a dance floor. (For the record, people don't mind dancing on grass in the slightest. Save your money. The grass can grow back. 
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Oh, and realize that delegating may very well take effort, be prepared for that.
I wouldn't have worried about last minutes RSVPs as either they didn't show up anyway or other expected guests didn't show up. I wouldn't have bothered with things like cake servers and the like. I should have consulted more with the photographer. I would of had a smaller wedding if I had known how I would end up doing just all the wedding planning myself!
During the planning process everyone kept saying that the wedding day is the BEST day of your life. (They would then follow it by saying that when your children are born, those are also great days.) I don't encourage you to think of your wedding day as THE BEST day. Think of it as one great day that is going to start many great days that you and your husband will share. You will have many BEST days to come!
Let it go! Stop stressing over the details. Not everyone's wedding is going t obe Martha Stewart perfect, but it's the most fun day of your life(at least it was for me!) so let it be!
Shift some focus onto your honeymoon and the small details of that. I remember more things about the 'moon than the actual wedding!
Don't let vendors pressure you into making decisions when you aren't ready. I understand that at some point a decision needs to be made, but sometimes I let myself be pushed around more than I should have, and I should have haggled more.
Also, accepting help is a biggie - I'm not a control freak, but I felt bad about asking people for help with things for our wedding, or taking anyone up on their offer to help, and did much more by myself than I needed to. Having been a MOH before and wanting to help out, I don't understand why I had that attitude, but I did.
Give yourself a firm deadline on ALL projects and worrying. Say you have a Saturday wedding. If it's not done by 6:00 on Thursday evening, it's not getting done. PERIOD. Giving yourself a firm quit time lets you let go of all those last minute things that probably aren't even important and let's you actually ENJOY your wedding (and rehearsal, and bridal luncheon and everything else). You need a day to decompress so you can take it all in. I promise it goes SO fast it's over before you even know it.
I completely agree with eloping's advice.
My advice is best suited for a bride who is DIY minded...unless you have someone who is not a part of the wedding party who can act as your wedding day coordinator (and I don't mean the venue "coordinator" whose only concern is handling the venue's staff), hire a wedding planner or day of wedding coordinator. Sure you CAN organize and plan things yourself, but it will end up being a working wedding for you and your parents which makes it tougher to enjoy the day like you and your parents deserve to. I didn't think I needed one because I'm very organized, it was a smaller wedding, and I didn't think it was worth the money to hire someone, but I do regret not hiring someone to help deal with all of the vendor set ups and to manage timing and flow of reception activities on the wedding day.
Two thirds of the little things you were the most excited about when planning will go completely unnoticed by your guests. Focus on the big picture.
Oh, and if you have big boobs, keep someone on standby to make sure they are in check. I am pretty conservative, but I look like a porn star in half of my photos.
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So, all you married bees, what's the once piece of advice you wish you had been given during your planning process?