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posted 1 year ago in Reception
  • poll: Did your guests who RSVP'd "yes" show up to your wedding?
    Yes, everyone who said they'd be there showed up. : (6 votes)
    18 %
    We had one or two cancellations, but nearly everyone came. : (7 votes)
    21 %
    We had a few no-shows, but nothing too major. : (9 votes)
    27 %
    A significant number of guests (4 or more) didn't show. : (11 votes)
    33 %
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    jadeblue    July 31, 2010   Western Massachusetts

    From other posts, I gather that not everyone who says they'll attend a wedding actually shows up. We invited 95 people and got 71 YES and 24 NO responses (well, including 3 no-replies that we eventually counted as no's). This is perfect, as we originally planned for 70 guests.

    But what happens next? Will all or most of these people actually show up, now that we've paid for them and reserved them a seat? Did some of your guests cancel? If so, did they let you know or just not show up? If this happened, what were the reason(s)? Do tell!

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    I think our situation was a little different b/c we invited so many. About 300 RSVP'd yes, they would come, and about 289 showed. I wasn't too happy.

     
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    Joshs Girl    July 16, 2010  

    We had 327 rsvp they were coming, but we had about 8 couples that didn't come. It worked out fine, though.

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I had 2 no-shows out of 60 planned guests. You still end up paying for their plates :(

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    We invited 128, and 90 RSVP'd yes.  I underestimated with the venue just to be on the safe side at the three week "final" number as 84.  Between the 3 week point, and the 3 day for real FINAL number we were right at 84.  We had 81 on the day.

     
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    jingle96    May 28, 2010   DW in ARUBA/livin' in VA

    All 54 people that RSVP'ed YES came too our wedding!  The trick...it was a DW in Aruba so I kinda knew that they were definites.  At least they did all show up to wedding and we didn't get dissed for the sun & sand!

     
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    LakeTahoeBride    August 21, 2010   SF

    I'm having the same concerns, especially since our wedding is quasi-destination (2-4 hour drive for most people).  I've heard horror stories of 20 people out of a 100 person wedding just not showing up the day-of...

    What are people's experiences?

     
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    future mrs kirsch    July 24, 2010   Ferndale, MI

    We had 112 that RSVP'd yes. Two people cancelled after we gave our final numbers. 3 left after the ceremony (one because he has a broken leg and was in too much pain to stay, the other two because my friend went into labor!) We had about 2 no shows. So we payed for 7 extra plates.

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    We paid for probably 20 extra plates. While that's on the high side, I think it actually happens often, from other stories I've heard.

     
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    2dBride    October 6, 2009   Washington, DC.

    We invited about 100.  We had 69 RSVP yes.  Only 60 showed up.  Fortunately, we had a buffet and no assigned seating, so we just ended up with more leftovers than anticipated--and we ate the leftovers for the next month.

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    Ugh I'm so worried about this. Particularly because we're getting married in the winter and some people have made noises about weather. I'm worried its going to snow like 3 inches and no one will show up. 

     
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    flamingred    June 19, 2010  

    I only had two of our YES responses not show up, but they called the day before and had a very serious family emergency so of course they couldn't sit around and watch me get married.

     
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    bryce234    August 7, 2010  

    I'm worried about this, but I'm also worried about the opposite.  How many people who said they weren't coming might actually show up?  So far, I've had two people tell me after the final counts were in that they're coming after all.  And ask if they can bring their kids.  Argh!!!!!! 

     
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    ebs1123    July 9, 2010   Omaha NE

    We had a few cancel after our final count was due, and a few show up without telling us they were coming. Overall, it evened out.

     
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    jadeblue    July 31, 2010   Western Massachusetts

    I had just one no-show, but I knew about it ahead of time and it was for a really good reason (daughter was admitted to hospital).

     
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    BostonBaby    January 2012   MA

    Like CorgiTales, I'm concerned about the weather. A few inches of snow is really no excuse -- all of our guests are lifelong New Englanders, and we've all travelled long distances in blizzards. Since we're having a Sunday brunch wedding, we're trying to encourage people to stay at the inn the night before, so they're already there and have no excuse not to go :)

    I think I'll just keep repeating "anyone who really wants to be there, will be there."

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    We sent 105 invites, inviting 208 people (including us)

    We never heard from about 35 of the invites.

    The week before the wedding we had a confirmed 125 guests.  6 called just a coupld days before, not able to come and I believe that 10 didn't show.

    So we ended up with 109.  WAY lower than what people tell you to estimate.  We should have had about 150 guests, even assuming 67% "yes" rate.

     
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    absolutbettie    May 2, 2009   New York, NY

    We invited 160 exactly and received all responses back (!!)  6 said no and 154 said yes.  On the wedding day there was only one couple who said originally said yes but couldn't make it.  It was an older family friend who couldn't attend due to a medical emergency so I couldn't realy be upset. 

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    We planned on 271 based on RSVPs and had 271 - one no show and one extra show (my great-aunt's helper) - easy peasy!

     

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