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I wouldn't have removed my veil so soon! I only wore it for the ceremony and wish I kept it on for the first dances & cake cutting. Now that I have all my wedding pictures and video.. I notice it =(. It was my choice to remove the veil so I only blame myself.
So Bee's, what do you wish you could change?
Ooh, interesting topic. Should be helpful for those of us with upcoming weddings!
I wouldn't change anything for my wedding day, but our reception was a month later and we didn't have time for pics and I really really wish we woud have made the time. None of our guests could get a good pic because of the lighting, plus apparenty it is more fun to take pics of yourself and not the bride and groom at the reception, ugh.....
I would have used a different person for my hair. It looked fine and photographed well, but I didn't love it! At that point I didn't care too much, though--bigger fish to fry! :)
The time, we started at 3:30 and had to be gone by 9pm!! we should have started earlier, but everything else was AMAZING!
ALSO: i would have spent less on my dress, i think i should have ordered one of those china replica dresses, and then i would have been able to get a dress for the reception. My dress was VERY uncomfortable! I couldnt wait to get it off towards the end of the night, i had blisters on both my sides!
The only thing that really makes me sad is that we didn't hire a professional videographer to film our wedding. But we just didn't have the budget for it, and one of my good friends surprised us with a pretty awesome montage video anyway, so I can't complain too much.
-I would have made sure my veil wasn't crooked! I can't believe no one fixed it. My BFF told me to keep the veil on for the first dance, which I did - but it was yanked so much before then, it was lopsided on the top of my head.... not a huge deal, but I wish I had someone checking on it!
-I would have figured out a way to make it to cocktail hour. I had no idea that DH was sad about us skipping (after we reviewed the timeline) but I would have cut pictures short and/or extended it another 15 minutes - just so we could mingle with our guests.
-I would have had the reception video taped - the entire thing, if only a camera in the corner. I flip flopped on videography and only had the ceremony and part of the reception recorded. The speeches and our dance was taped, but I would have LOVED to have footage of the dance floor (even unedited).
I would have tried to talk to more people before they left....I missed some people that I haven't seen in a really long time and it meant so much to me that they came...
I would have specified for the photographers to take more pictures of guests. There were lots of people that have almost no presence in the photos and it would be nice to remember they were there. They did a fantastic job otherwise though.
I would have worried less about how everything was going. I was pretty stressed during the reception to make sure everything was running smoothly...I'm not sure how I could fix that though since that's just my personality....
@tootietoo2: Good for the Groomsman... but it should not have gotten to that point.
I would have had the quilt for people to sign like I wanted and I would have had someone else do my hair because that was completely and utterly wrong.
- I would have had a different person do my hair. I didn't like how it turned out and that morning she drove me crazy! She was also the only person I really even talked to about doing my hair so I recommend doing some homework there.
- I also would have had a bigger sign, or worded the sign we did have differently at our guest book. I wanted people to write a little note in there but all we got was the list of names.
Would've started the ceremony an hour later cause ppl who are use to beach traffic really complain about beach traffic.LOL
Provided Google Maps for my family because I didn't get any pics w/ my Mom and Grandma while getting dressed and we barely had our "First Look". My family's hotel front desk sent them through Beach Town that always have Beach Traffic in the summer. Why would you ever give street directions when we have a Toll Road?
Should've turned off my cell-phone because of said Beach Traffic. Getting a call every 5 min while your trying to get to your ceremony doesn't put you in the right frame of mind. But luckily I'm a professional and understood that walking down the aisle looking like a raving lunatic wouldn't have looked good in our photos.LOL
Forgot to add:
I would've also made sure I had a drink or two before walking down the aisle. I was so stiff in my pictures before DH and our first look. Oh, Well. Now I get to do a Rock the Dress session. And I'll definitely have a nice glass of Pinot Noir.
@squeak35: Lol, good idea, I just added "Take shots to calm nerves" before heading over to the ceremony site on my timeline.
I would have told my mom NOT to let my groom's BIL and other males -not to "traditionally kidnap" the groom from the reception. It would have been nice to not have a drunk groom who missed most of our reception. -He's not even the kind of guy to get drunk!
I wouldn't have consumed 15 or so mimosas earlier in the day. Before everyone thinks I'm an alcoholic, I wasn't even remotely intoxicated since it was over the course of like a 10 hour period. It was all of that vitamin C that came back to kick me in the ass. I had some major tummy troubles about half way through the reception.
I would have paid more to extend the reception by an hour. Four hours flew by so quickly!
This is a great thread and I keep refreshing it for more tips.
@tootietoo2: That's funny about your groomsman!!
I would have either brought my slippers with me or bought inserts for my wedding shoes cuz I was not anticipating my feet hurting that badly.
I wish we would have been able to hire a photographer and get more pictures. I also would have spent more time with my husband... we have barely any pictures together :(
I wouldn't have changed a thing! The day didn't go by too slowly or too quickly, and even the blizzard was okay--it felt like an adventure. It was a lovely weekend. I guess I wish we could have had a first dance, but really, that's such a tiny thing in the grand scheme of things.
The wedding was pretty perfect. The only little thing I wish I would have remembered keep refreshing my lipstick throughout the afternoon. :-)
I would have changed the weather, but since that is not realistic I would have planned better for our "plan B". I had it all worked out, but not for all of the decorations so many of them went unused or wasted. The complications the the heat and humidity (which rarely happens in Maine) were our biggest issues. Other than that, I would have really cut back on what I did the weekend of as I hosted people Friday and Saturday. It was too much, and I was just completely exhausted by the wedding.
@bride2bejc: if i had to pick only one thing to change, as i have said on other threads, i would have been more generous with time for pictures. i had a good plan, but then some things didnt go as planned and we lost some picture time.
If I had a do-over, I would have extended EVERYTHING! I would have booked my photographer for an extra hour (I had them for 8 hours but had to pick between getting ready shots or them staying for the whole reception) , extended the reception by another 30 minutes (we already had it for 5 hours), and started getting ready 30 minutes earlier. Everything went by SO FAST,and there are so many people involved that it's hard to stay on a timeline! At the time, I was being cost conscious, but I think it would have been well worth the money.
Also agree with bride2bejc...I would have had my veil on longer--in my case, I wish I'd had it on in some of the pre-wedding shots. I only had it on for the ceremony itself and wish I had at least one posed shot of me with all of my bridal regalia.
i would have taken 10 minutes or so to just be alone with my husband before the reception started. we spent all night side by side but i felt like we were always conversing or entertaining.
@ADBK2011: good one! this too!
I would've gone with our initial instincts and picked the baker we wanted (instead of a friend of the family), who would have shown up on time with our cakes and would have shown up with them looking professionally made. My father and dj wouldn't have spent soooo much time having to track them down and things would have been hapier all around.
I would've planned pictures better. We took too long and didn't get many of my hubby and I as a result (we had to sneak out during the reception) and we missed the coctail hour and part of the reception because of it. It was our own fault, but having a tighter list and better planning would have helped.
I would have kept my veil on longer too. I took it off right before we walked in to the reception because I thought it would get tugged on while we danced, but it was my favorite part of my outfit and I wish I had it on longer. I may start wearing it around the house. :-)
I would have considered doing a receiving line. Not sure that I would have done it...but looking back, I am *really* sad at how I feel like we didn't even get to talk to a good chunk of our guests...
@sweetkischa: Nice tip about planning the timing of the photography so that you can really enjoy everything else going on.
I would have made my bridesmaids and mum hurry up more when getting ready so there would have been time to get my getting ready on video. And I wish I had more time to use the photobooth with guests and I forgot to mention a few photos I wanted to the photographer. But only little things.
Only thing I would have done differently is gotten a videographer -- the day really does fly by and it's impossible to remember everything.
hmm.. i would have to ditto on the remembering to reapply lipstick more often.
and our situation was funny because we traveled from Texas to Wales for our wedding and our officiant wasn't able to come out the day before the wedding to the hotel where the wedding was for a rehearsal because it was pretty remote... so we had a mini-rehearsal, but not with our officiant. there were a few tiny flubs that only I noticed that we could have avoided if we'd had time to go through things with the officiant.
Also, would have been nice to have a chance to talk to our musicians in person before the ceremony. I'd set up everything from a distance, so there were a couple of moments that weren't exactly what I'd planned since I hadn't talked to him in person on the day of the wedding.
Basically, if you're having a wedding where you don't get to know your vendors in person, MAKE SURE you make the time to get together with them face to face, even if it means you have to factor that in on the day of your wedding. We got to meet our photographers the day before and there were no problems at all with the photography. :)
but all in all, it worked out great. the flubs were so tiny that (as I said) i'm pretty positive even my fantastically type a MOH didn't notice!
@UpstateCait: This was similar to ours. We made our own margarita mix for our signature drink and it was way too acidic. A few people complained of indigestion and I'm pretty sure they were the ones who had the most margaritas.
I think the only thing I might have changed is starting the ceremony a little later so we could have had a bit more time in the morning, and not had dinner at 4:30 in the afternoon... since we had the venue as late as we wanted, that wasn't an issue. It would have been nice to get up and get a walk or jog in just to burn off some energy, since I was literally bouncing off the walls hyper for half the night. Which was fun, except I feel like I was kind of forcing people to dance with me.
I would have hired a videographer. I am still SO sad we dont have any video from our entire wedding.
I would have worn my hair differently, most likely down
I would have done a first look (which DH told me AFTER our wedding that he wishes we had done but he was adamant about not seeing me)
Oh, I thought of another one... This is probably just lack of thinking on my part, but as the gifts started trickling in the mail prior to the wedding, I didn't keep track of who sent what. I just sent thank-yous as they came, and didn't think about how I might be curious in the future to remember who sent what! (oh how stupid!)
- I would have told my family to chill, flat out. My mom was cursing at me on my wedding day and I'll probably hold it against her for forever.
- I would have found some other way to get my caterer the food by table list. I printed a zillion copies out and put them in different boxes but they all got lost somehow and I had to leave the reception in the middle of it to go print out the food lists. The poor caterer also had to cut the portions down because of this because he didn't want to run out, even though we'd ordered a ton. The food was delicious but the drama was unnecessary.
- I would have put my foot down when my mom bought waaaaaaay too much wine. I also would have insisted she get "normal" beer since no one liked her personal choices that I flat out told her not to order
- I would have snagged the left over food and candy immediately. I have no idea who took it but whoever they are got a LOT of candy
- I would have made the time for DH and I to learn how to dance, bc we were AWFUL lol
- I would have insisted someone double check my sister's lacing of my corset, bc my perfectly fitted custom gown was slipping down and spilling my boobs all night.
- Come to think of it, I might have hired a professional coordinater, even though they are incredibly expensive in my area, bc I ended up doing everything myself anyway and while I didn't mind my family did NOT handle the stress well.
- I would have ignored almost everything my step father in law said because his planning never pans out. I booked wait staff and valets, he insisted I cancel bc he had people already, his people never showed, but I had warned mine to be on stand by and they showed up and did the job right. Unless they're the ones who took the pounds and pounds candy, in which case darn them
All that said, we still had an incredible wedding and I don't really regret anything.
Just two things:
1) I would've played the first dance songs from our parents' weddings at some point during the reception as a surprise for them. I thought of that idea randomly a few weeks after the wedding, and I SO wish I would've thought of it before.
2) I would've somehow stopped the little kids from throwing the leftover candy buffet candy at us as we were doing our sparkler exit. My wedding dress has little blue stains all over it from the Sixlets that were melting in little kids' hands and then thrown at me...
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