Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We’re going on a mini-moon after the wedding (probably 3 nights B&B, with honeymoon a few months later), so we’re flexible with when we can leave the next day.
Any bees do something the day after with their guests? A number of OOT guests won’t be coming in until the day of the wedding, and I’ve love to get to spend a little more time with them.
Or are we going to be ready to get away from everyone?
Post # 3
We went to brunch with DH’s father (and some other guests) who were in from out of town. It was nice to spend time with him but I was so tired, all I wanted to do was cuddle with my new husband in bed. I wouldn’t have done it if he hadn’t offered to pay for it, honestly!
Post # 4
We didn’t have one, but a couple friends and relatives asked if we were going to. When we said no, the response was “Whew, good!” I attended one as an out of town guest, and it was ok. I thought it was a nice thought, but I felt pressured when I kind of just wanted to take my time getting ready and maybe see some sights before I had to leave.
You’re probably going to want to spend time with your husband anyway. If you want to spend more time with certain friends and relatives, I would arrange another visit.
Post # 5
My FI’s family has a tradition of hosting a bbq the day after any large event including weddings. At first I thought it might be strange but to be honest I have always really enjoyed spending quality time with everyone and recapping the previous day’s events.
For our wedding we are having a potluck dinner with my side of the family whoever is still around the day after (Saturday) and then the following day (Sunday) having a bbq with all his family before the few OOT guests leave.
It all depends on how much help you can get and how many people will stay. I would definitely not recommend doing it yourself on top of getting ready for the honeymoon.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
My parents hosted one at the venue where we got married (a B&B) and it was so nice to be able to spend more time with our guests. I am really glad we had the extra hangout time with everyone.
Post # 7
My parents hosted the day after brunch at their house, it didn’t start until 11 so we got a sleep in at the hotel we stayed in and had the morning together.
We found it fantastic. My parents got the food catered so they didn’t have to do anything, it was a beautiful day and their house backs onto the beach so everyone was relaxed and layd back, picnicing on blankets or there was beach cricket etc set up for people that wanted to do things.
My DH and I did make an effort to talk to everyone at our wedding but it was so brief so we found the day after was nice to be able to chat more to everyone – especially people who had come from overseas for our day.
Post # 8
Totally worth it! We had a number of guests stay overnight at our venue (we were married at a hotel) so it was nice to spend a little extra time with them. The hotel has a breakfast buffet anyway so we just reserved a small space over to the side for just our party. My IL’s actually hosted it since the majority was DH’s side.
Post # 9
I loved ours–it was maybe the most laid back part of the wedding weekend, so really good for quality time with the oot-ers.
Post # 10
We are having a DW, and plan on having a Welcome Party two nights before the wedding. Because of this we won’t be having a next day breakfast/brunch. We want to party away on our wedding night, so worrying about something the next day does not sound appealing to us. Just go with whatever sounds right to you.
Post # 11
The last two weddings I was at had them, and they were both quite far from where we live. It’s nice if you have a lot of OOT guests because then you get to spend one more meal with them and thank them for coming. FI’s parents offered to host brunch the day after our wedding, which I’m so thankful for.
Post # 12
I would love to have one, but I’m not sure how the guests would like it. Since our dream venue is about 1 to 1.5 hours away from our guests, we were thinking of either paying for the wedding partys attire (BM dresses and GM tuxes), or for a night in the hotel. I think this would kill two birds with one stone becuase we’d get to have a more intimate brunch with our wedding party, and also there’d be no drinking and driving. FI likes the idea, but the wedding isn’t for another two years, so we’ll see as it gets closer what everyone thinks
Post # 13
@rebwana: YES! IT was an awesome and much more chill experience–really glad we did it since we couldn’t do a rehearsal dinner.
Post # 14
We had one at a local restaurant. It was really nice to relax together after the wedding and visit for a bit longer with our OOT guests 🙂
Post # 16
Ours was impromptu but still great. We spent the wedding night in the same hotel as most of our OOT guests, and when we went down for breakfast in the morning, DH’s entire extended family was there as well. Several of them were leaving for the airport within the hour, so it was great to see them before they left and to hear about how much fun they’d had.