Post # 1
Were you able to spend some time with each of your guests? If so, how did you manage that with all of the other duties (speeches, dances, cake cutting, etc)? FI does not want to do a receiving line at the church. I think a receiving line may be the only way to make sure we get some face time and get to thank a majority of our guests for coming.
Our guest list is topping 300-350 and we don’t feel comfortable cutting anyone. FI has an extremely large family and both us (and FI’s parents and grandparents) have grown up in our small town so there are many people we are close to and want to be there. How did you handle this?
Post # 3
I’m not married yet, but our guest list is at 290. YIKES!!!
We probably won’t do a formal receiving line because we are getting married at a theater. But we will probably have a short “mingle” session in the lobby right after the ceremony. I know this won’t give us time to see/hug/talk to every single person, but maybe we can mingle with half the guests here, then half the guests at the reception.
Also, where I live, and in my culture, the bridal dance is a vital part of every single wedding I’ve ever been to. (wrongly called “the dollar dance.” cringe. hate that term). Anyway, this gives the bride and groom a chance to dance with and mingle with every guest. And money isn’t even really the focus. So I think this tradition solves this problem.
I know a lot of people are “offended” by this tradition (although I am still totally BAFFLED by that), but it is an amazing way to have fun with as many guests as possible in a short amount of time.
Would you consider something like that?
Post # 4
@BulldogBride: I’m not married yet either but I’m having a large wedding (300) and I have been struggling with this for awhile so I’m hoping to see what other brides did!
I’m planning on doing a reception line at the ceremony. I’ve seen other posts that suggest that I don’t do this because people hate waiting in line, but my pastor strongly advised that I do this as he said most other couples that he’s married (even couples with this many guests) do this. If someone is at the ceremony only you may not get a chance to greet them if you avoid a reception line at the ceremony. I’m planning on asking him to announce that we are having a reception line, but that we will also be greeting guests at the hall (so that people won’t feel obligated to go through the line). However, I’m not sure how to “mingle” with them at th reception hall!
Post # 5
@Stace126: Thanks for the reminder about the bridal dance. That is a tradition around here too (we call it the dollar dance :/ ) and we will probably do it.
@MrsBeck: You made a good point about some guest not making it to the reception. Maybe FI and I (and maybe our parents) will greet everyone as they leave the church so it will feel less formal than an actual line and it will avoid guests feeling uncomfortable if they don’t know anyone in the wedding party.
Post # 6
We’re having 400 people. We will be doing a receiving line and a dollar dance. We are both from the same small town with huge families (150+). I prolly won’t see most guests at the reception, but honestly I don’t care. There’s no one coming I don’t see regularly so I’m just focusing on spending time with my husband.
Post # 7
I’m inviting 450 people but because its destination and most of my relatives are overseas, were estimating around 200.
I will greet everyone at the reception straight after dinner.
Post # 8
@MrsN14: That is a great way to look at it. I feel a lot better. A majority of our guests are from around here and I see them on a regular basis too. There will be a few out of towners so I will make sure to spend some time with them since they will be leaving to go home the next day.