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    sweetpea1031    March 19, 2011  

    Hello ladies, 

    I am running out of steam BIG TIME and I have a full 6 months to go and a lot of planning left to do. I just want to be living with/married to my wonderful man, but I am bogged down in planning, like bridesmaids' dresses and cake designs. I was just wondering, to all you ladies who are now on the other side... was all the planning and time really worth it? Really, really?

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I didn't spend a lot of time planning (most was done months before the wedding because right before the wedding I was working a lot of OT).  I didn't really DIY and I don't really regret that I didn't.

    I think you need to take a break from it and learn to let some things go off your to do list that aren't as important.

     
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    bloodgo1    May 14, 2010   Royal Oak

    Yes! Toward the last 3 months I started to get MAJORLY sick of planning so I completely understand how you are feeling. I put a ton of time and effort into all of the details of the wedding so I cannot even explain how happy it made us to sit down and see the whole room with the lights dimmed down. Everything looked absolutely perfect and I knew that wouldn't have happened if I hadn't put in all of the time that I did. I actually started crying during dinner and my hubby looked over all concerned but really I was just crying because I was so happy. Plus, it was a major sense of relief to know that all of the worrying I had been doing about whether it would all work out the way I wanted it to was finally over.

     
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    JennyChicago    August 7, 2010  

    My engagement lasted 9 months and we didn't really start planning till 3 months in and thats when we settled on the colors/centerpices/venue/menu/cake/bridal party. Then we kinda sat back and did nothing until last minute lol only the last month was stressful but that was mainly due to my dress being late. To answer your question though yes it was all worth it. To look back on my wedding and know that I don't regret anything is such a good feeling.

     
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    sweetpea1031    March 19, 2011  

    Thank you ladies, that is what I figured you all would say, and I appreciate it. I think I needed some motivation to keep it moving. Thank you :)

     
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    vicarswifeintraining    September 9, 2010   Cardiff

    @sweetpea1031: So worth it!!!!! I mean we didn't spend a gross amount so I guess that helps - we spent £3500! And  trust me it's only now that every thing being perfect will matter to you! On the day and afterwards - meh - it's all about you and your man! So I think if you spend a reasonable amount and keep sight of what it's all actually about then it's worth it!

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    I'll be the dissenter here. Honestly, no. It wasn't worth it. Our wedding was unreal gorgeous and I had SO many people tell me it was the best wedding they'd ever been to and I am SO glad my mom had so much fun planning and doing things, but at the end of the day, the 50k (that I didn't spend, my dad did) wasn't worth it to me. The end result was the same, and I think ALOT of people on the boards completely and totally lose sight of what's actually important on that day.

    Of course, you have to understand that I didn't want it to begin with. My family, his family, and him all wanted a wedding but you know who got stuck planning it? If you guessed me, you'd be right. It was worth it to everyone else, though.

     

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