Post # 1
Our wedding is approaching fast and everyone I know who is married always says the same thing: You can’t even get to the bar, bathroom or dancefloor without being bombarded by a guest. I know that the bride is always the center of attention so to speak, but I am hoping this will not happen to me as I am kind of on the shy side and hate for attention to be on me.
Did this happen to you at your wedding? How did you deal with it? Did you feel overwhelmed?
Post # 3
I didn’t really have this experience. Everyone did want to talk to us but they weren’t overbearing. I went to the bar and got a drink and we didn’t have people interrupting us during dinner. The attention is a little overwhelming but in a good way, everyone is so happy for you its pretty infectious.
Post # 4
I definitely got a lot of attention at my wedding. During the cocktail hour I couldn’t take 2 steps without someone talking to me or someone wanting to take a picture of/with me lol. However as the night wore on people gave me a bit more space, but still I was always surrounded by people. No one interrupted our dinner (although I still didn’t eat much) and I was able to get myself drinks, but I didn’t have a moment alone or with just my Darling Husband until after we left lol. It was a bit overwhelming, but I enjoyed it for one day. 🙂
Post # 5
Yes it happened, yes it was overwhelming, yes i got really annoyed and lost it. For me it was only annoying and overwhelming during cocktail hour. We wanted to get a big family picture of each of our families. We see my entire family regularly and there have been plenty of weddings in my family, so everyone knew the drill: stand, smile, and say bye. DH’s family on the other hand, he’s the first real wedding and we only see a handful of them regularly, so the ones I don’t see often wanted to take a photo with me, then with me and Darling Husband, then me and just the wife, and whatever other variation you can have with 4 people… I felt like Minnie freaking Mouse!!!! I was fine taking one maaybe 2 photos with each cousin, but after one of them asked for a THIRD photo I lost it. I feel horrible still, but I just looked at her and said no and walked away and joined the rest of our guests at cocktail hour. When I entered the cocktail area all of my girl friends had gathered by the entrance and welcomed me with lots of love. It’s going to sound horrible, but I am so glad I just walked away from DH’s family. In my opinion, it wouldn’t have ended and I would have missed any chance of mingling with our other guests had I not drawn the line.
After cocktail hour it was fine though. Everyone has gotten a chance to see you/take a photo with you and it becomes a normal event.
Post # 6
I never made it to the bar, although magically drinks kept appearing for me-so that wasn’t an issue. I also had no problem making it to the bathroom. We had a smaller ceremony, so I don’t know if that might have made a difference. At no point did I feel overwhelmed, just happy to have some great people there that day. 🙂
Post # 7
Everyone is there because of you and your husband so yes you are the focus of attention but I still went to the bathroom and the bar, I just got stopped a lot for people to congratulate me or ask for a picture etc… But it was all fun
Post # 8
Nope – it was a whlrwind, but a really happy whirlwind. 🙂 I didn’t need to get to the bar, because I needed only so much as mention that I was without a drink and I would have 4 people running to get me one.
Post # 9
I wasn’t bombareded at all at our wedding. Everyone actually kind of left me alone. If I wanted to mingle with someone, I approached them. The cocktail hour (which Darling Husband and I attended almost all of) was a bit hectic since everyone wanted to congratulate us and talk about how nice everything was but after that, we were pretty much free to enjoy our reception on our own. Of course there was always someone around (as to be expected when 75 of your nearest and dearest are in one room) but I definitely didn’t feel overwhelmed.
Post # 10
I guess during cocktail hour and when we went around to tables during dinner guests were asking us to take photos with them, which didn’t bother me in the least. I didn’t find it overwhelming, I did feel like a celebrity :)! I never had to go to the bar though because drinks were magically appearing in my hand as soon as I finished one – can’t remember if it was friends getting them for me or my coordinator – but either way it was not an issue. And, this is odd considering how much I did drink, I did not have to go to the bathroom the entire night. I was on the dance floor through most of it so no issues there either.
Post # 11
@mightywombat: That’s exactly how I would describe it! A happy whirlwind.
Yes, it was crazy, and yes the attention could be overwhelming…but ultimately we were just happy that all of these people came to celebrate with us. We made sure to talk to and spend time with everyone during our rounds at dinner, but when the dancing started–we went to party with our friends 🙂 I think it was a good balance of fulfilling our duties of hosts and getting to enjoy the results of all of our planning.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You will get a lot of attention. People are there to see you, and they love you. They will want to say hi and express their congratulations. I never went to the bar, but Darling Husband fetched me a drink at one point. I also never went to the bathroom, even though I drank TONS of water. I sweat it all out on the dancefloor. You can easily get a lot of your mingling done on the dancefloor. I’d try to reserve the time for the meal to actually eat. That will give you and your new husband a moment to relax and share some time together. You will get less bombarded by guests during the meal if you are not at a sweetheart table.
Post # 13
@Legallyblondiebride: You do get a lot of attenion but just smile and say hello and “thank you for coming”. The wait staff at your venue will bring you food and for the bathroom if someone is coming towards you smile, hug them and say “brb, bathroom!”
You will be glowing so much that day with love for your Darling Husband and glowing becuase you will be so pretty that smiling and being happy to see people will come naturually!
Post # 14
@mrsSonthebeach: I agree with this. Also I would say depending on how large or how small your guest list is will affect how some people will feel bombarded. Im only inviting 75 guests and not expecting everyone to show. I do get shy when all eyes are on me but how could they not be on your wedding day?
Post # 15
I think what helped us is with a catholic wedding there was a small gap between ceremony and cocktail hour. We got all of our pictures done, my dress bustled and we were there for the whole cocktail hour to talk to guests. This time was a bit overwhelming with lots of people wanting to see and talk to us. But I think then once the actual reception started people got in their greetings and well wishes. I ate my whole dinner and spent the majority of the night on the dance floor!
(We had about 175 guests)
Post # 16
Nope, not really. People did approach me and talk to me, but for the most part they let me make my own way around the room. I don’t remember feeling bombarded or overwhelmed.