Post # 1
A waiting post about being disappointed by a surprise/fake out got me thinking about an old, sad memory of almost getting engaged to my last boyfriend before DH. Want to hear it?
I used to date this English guy. We were together 5 years, lived together for 3, had 2 dogs, a house, the whole 9.
We had been having some problems, he broke up with me very briefly, and when we got back together he told me this: His friend told him that if he got back together with me, he was gonna have to marry me. So naturally, that made me happy. Marriage/family is something we had discussed often in the previous years.
Fast forward a few months…and we were taking a trip back to his hometown (London) for his best friend’s wedding. Our 5 year anniversary was during the vacation.
Before we left for our trip, he told me that he had a surprise for me but he couldn’t keep it to himself. He was too excited. Said he had researched sunset times, and booked a private capsule on the London Eye for us to celebrate. It came with a bottle of champagne & truffles.
I was sooooo excited!!! Obviously this was going to be it.
So, the evening of…I waited nervously in line for our turn. It was so great. The sunset and views were incredible. I had charged my camera battery and was so excited that there was an attendant on board with us who I ask to take pictures.
As we approached the top, I kept thinking, "THIS IS IT!!!"
And it wasn’t. The Eye went around and the ride was soon over. And there was no proposal. Ever. We broke up a few months later.
Tell me your stories!
Post # 3
I was engaged to my high school sweetheart for a year. We dated three years in high school, got engaged the summer before I left for college and broke up a year after that. We were just way too young and luckily, we figured that out and were honest about it with each other. He went on to marry the next girl he dated (they are still married and have two kids). I moved away from our small town to NYC and had amazing adventures all through by 20s, moved to LA when I turned 30 and then finally met my husband and married him at 33 and were expecting our first baby.
It worked out well for all of us.
Post # 4
That’s weird, I wonder what happened.
I was dating a guy for 7 1/2 years. He didn’t treat me right, and lied to me constantly. Finally I caught him in a huge lie, and I knew it was finally over. He told me about a month after I dumped him that he had a ring and was planning to fly down the weekend after I broke up with him. Glad I did it when I did!
Post # 5
I was dating this psychopath for a little over a year and when I broke up with him for my now FI, he started crying and told me he was going to marry me LOL….
Post # 6
@cyndistar3: Wow — that’s kind of funny that, at 12 or 13 yo, a boy would know that he wants to marry a 12 or 13 year old girl!!!
Post # 7
I was engaged to my HS sweetheart as well. He ended up lying to me, I took him back, I decided to try to “catch him” flirting. One of my “best friends” started talking to him to research and see if he ended up flirting with her and lying to me about it (he was deployed overseas so all of their interaction was online).
She told me that he didn’t flirt with her, I snooped through his chats and found out that they were supposedly in love and both lying to me. I dropped them both like hot potatoes. They have been married for a year now. Every once in a while she messages me through facebook apologizing but I don’t want to have anything to do with either of them since I’m still good friends with his cousin and know that he lies to his wife now and I don’t want to be a part of it.
I’m glad it happened because I’m so much happier now 🙂
Post # 8
I dated a guy all through highschool…Starting the first month of my freshman year all the way to my 3rd year of college… He had bought my engagement ring and everything… As time went on he never proposed and would actually throw excuses out at me why we shouldnt get engaged (mainly money)…I got tired of waiting around for him to make a move (and he was actually a bit abusive) I called it off… I have never seen him since..or talked to him..Its been over two years now.. The hardest but best decision I had ever made in my life… I know have the love of my life that I am getting married to on May 20!!
Post # 9
I dated a guy my freshman year of college, the last one before my DH, and we discussed marriage and engagements with him being military and deploying in the near future. But things didn’t end well, and basically he had no idea what he wanted or where he was in life.
I don’t think it really counts, but my high school sweetheart and I had talked marriage a time or two. But not in the same serious, it’s happening soon way that the ex or my DH and I did.
Post # 10
I dated someone for about 3 years during university/beginning of my former career. I wanted to move in together, but he wasn’t ready. I had hoped at the time that we would get married eventually, but he ended up breaking up with me. I was heart broken for a good while, but I met DH about a year (and a whole lotta first dates) later. The ex and I are actually really good friends now which I’m so thankful for, it took me a long time to be ready for that. He and his wife (then-GF) came to our wedding, and we went to their wedding a couple months ago. Both DH and I love hanging out with them. It may seem a little weird from the outside, but we all get along so well, they’re definitely some of my favourite people to hang out with!
Post # 11
@LacrosseBride: He is a few years older than me… it was just a bad situation, he is completely fried from drugs.
Post # 12
@cyndistar3: yeah, but how old were you when you were dating him? I mean, you were 14 when you got pregnant, no? And you dated him before you met your FI. So that puts you at what – 12 or 13? And if he was a few years older than you, that made him what – 16, 17?
Post # 13
Yes I was 13 he was about 17 I think. And I completely agree that that is just odd (and wrong, really) But like I said he was (is) completely fried. He also likes to believe that my daughter is really his… I have ended all contact with him because he is super psycho…
Post # 14
I was engaged to my high school sweetheart of 8 years (met at 16) and he proposed when I was 24. I couldnt go through with it and backed out 3 months before the wedding. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. We made peace a few years ago but BOY am I glad I held out!! We would have surely been divorced!
Post # 15
@cyndistar3: why does he believe that your child is his? You said your FI was your first and only, so what would give your old boyfriend the idea that your child is his?
Post # 16
@LacrosseBride: He lives in a fantasy world. My fiance is my one and only. The most me and this guy ever did was make out. Out of the whole time I knew him he was only sober once. When we were together he really didn’t seem that bad but when I broke up with him he went off the deep end, tried to kill himself and started up meth again… like I said a complete psycho… and I realize I was stupid for even being with him in the first place.