Post # 1
Keep it to a minimum. Only ones that still bother you weeks later.
My one big and only regret was that I never got “official/posed” pictures with the groomsmen or the flower girls and ring bearers.
I never got pics with me and just the groomsmen because I wanted them to run rehearsal. And while they were running rehearsal some guests had arrived super early.(Seriously who arrives at 4/430 for a 530 ceremony? Totally killed my picture taking time) And I didn’t want anyone else to see me in my dress prior to the ceremony. I guess I could have tried to get the photographer and the guys somewhere the guests won’t be to take pics. Even if it was indoors somewhere.
While we were taking pictures one of the flower girls were taking a nap so we had thought we will do it later. (I’m a little sore about that one because Mother-In-Law knew we were taking bridal party pictures so I don’t know why she could not have waited 20 mins before putting her down for her nap) But time just flew by and we forgot.
I also wished I taken the time to take pictures during the reception with our immediate family and especially the kids. I was SO looking forward to getting pictures with all the kids. A big ol shot with my husband and I and all five of the kids. But there was just always something to tend to or a question that needed to be answer.
I remember a couple times that the kids would come up to me to show me something and I would ask them to wait because I was in the middle of something with the maitre’d. I wish I would have told the maitre’d to wait.
All in all that’s my only regret of the day so I guess that’s pretty great considering most brides have a mile long list of regrets.
I don’t have my pro pics back yet so I’m hoping to be pleasantly surprised with some candid pictures of us with the kids! It’s not like we did not spend any time with the kids and our family. Just not as much as I had hoped to.
Post # 3
My only regret is issues with sound for our ceremony. We didn’t have power, were right next to a beautiful waterfall, and our portable sound system was totally washed out. About 1/2 our guests couldn’t hear the ceremony, but at least we kept it short.
Post # 4
@Gerbera I think i kind of have the same regret. I didnt get a picture of just me with the Groomsmen, or the Groom with the Bridesmaid or Best Man…there also arent alot of just me….and there isnt ONE of the back of my dress 🙁
Post # 5
- No microphone for the officiant
- Not getting Father-In-Law to marry us
- Not spending more time on the music (second band fell through less than 2 weeks before wedding so my Dad handled it. He did great, but I wanted more dance music)
- Not demanding pictures after the ceremony even though everything was late
- Not writting my vows and listening to people who said it’d come from my heart
- Not getting a picture with my brother and sister
- Not spending more time with my brother
- Spending so much time stressing about stuff that no one used or cared about. I could’ve been enjoying my summer, but I stressed instead. In the end, none of it mattered except marrying McHusband. I want my summer back!!!
Really, it was a great day and I loved it. Granted, there were lots of problems, but I don’t care that much anymore.
Post # 6
Oh gosh, I don’t regret hiring our photographer, but I do regret not reviewing the contract closer beforehand and letting him take over our schedule too much. He took amazing pictures and was worth the $, but we didn’t realize that we don’t get rights to the pictures for years and only 50 images in our album which is a total ripoff. We also didnt’ get to ride in the party bus with our bridal party becasue he was being controlling, but again, we got amazing shots and it was really efficient so it wasn’t the end of the world.
I also regret not being firmer with my BM’s about spending time with me that morning. I never specifically told them to stay so they all left after hair to do get food and do makeup elsewhere. I wish they would have been a little more attached to me for those couple of hours.
Even though our flower girl screamed/talked loudly through our entire ceremony, I don’t regret having her. It is unfortunate that happened, but it would have caused such a rift with my in-laws if she wasn’t allowed in the church.
Post # 7
– Not getting my dress professionally altered (a friend’s mom did it and it didn’t quite fit right still :-P)
– Not doing a meal (we did just desserts, which was alright, but I missed getting to sit down and share a meal with our guests)
– Choosing bridesmaids who weren’t excited about the wedding (it meant that my husband and I planned everything ourselves and they didn’t even share in the excitement of the process)
– Not having our first dance (we planned to, but we didn’t have a DJ so my husband was just going to put together a playlist on his ipod, but ran out of time)
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
Not adding more time to our photography package. At 5 hours we made it to the end of dinner and cake cutting, but we have no pictures of dancing.
That’s the only thing I’d go back and change if I could!
Post # 9
By far the BIGGEST regret I have is not hiring a DOC coordinator. It was totally out of our budget, but she/he would have fixed all the things that went wrong that day.
Post # 10
I think pictures is my biggest regret too. I wish I had gotten more with my Mom. I never got any formal pics with my brothers separately. Just with us in a group. And I would of liked more candid or impromptu photos with friends. Oh well, what can ya do? If that’s my biggest regret, that’s not so bad!
Post # 11
not taking more photos of Darling Husband and I. Due to the rain :/ so it was kind of out of our control but we did our best.
I wish we would have done more different poses – I didn’t love all of them and wish we could have more variety. also I wish we got some that were so standard that it was boring – but regular.
I wish I would have told my mom (and anyone else in the suite) to be dressed and ready when I got ready. She was in regular clothes without make up and didn’t want to be in many photos such.
Post # 12
I forgot to make my thank you speech! Seriously… I have been writing down little things I wanted to say for months, but then once we got into it with all the food and people and excitement- my brain just went out the window… That’s pretty much it… There are things I wouldn’t have spent so much money on, or things that I wish i had asked my photog to take pictures of but I never did… but those things probably won’t bother me weeks from now.
Post # 13
my regret now is that we didn’t honor both sets of our parents more as they’re both celebrating 30 years of marriage! we said thank you and have photos of their wedding, but i think it would have been really special to honor that more.
we had lots of other little and big things that went wrong, but i didn’t let it bother me on our wedding day and i try not to let it mar how i felt that weekend, which was FULL of love.
Post # 14
@moderndaisy: It really is tricky to predict how a Flower Girl or Ring Bearer will act. My Flower Girl was a few mos shy of 4 yrs and had a major meltdown as we were lining up, and ended up being carried down the aisle by my sister’s fiance ahead of us. Thankfully she was quiet during the ceremony, although as I said in my post above, we were by a waterfall so I didn’t hear much of anything besides the officiant and Darling Husband.
Post # 15
-having the string quartet play at our cocktail hour. wasn’t necessary since the cocktail was only an hour and guests were totally preoccupied with food and drinks. also, i think i could have opted for a trio or perhaps just a cello soloist which would have been cheaper and just as nice.
-making premium alcohol brands available. most of our guests stuck with the basics but there were a couple friends who went for stuff like the Johnnie Walker Blue. And if that bottle was opened just for one drink, we had to pay for the whole bottle. ouch!
-second guessing my wedding planner and floral designer in the few weeks before the wedding. i had the typical bridal stress in the few weeks prior where I was second guessing everyone and all the decisions i had made about the wedding. I should have known that they were professionals and knew how to do their job! Luckily that became very apparent the day before and day of the wedding so I could eventually relax and let them take charge!
Post # 16
I regret not getting some of the pictures that I wanted with family and not asking someone to video tape the first dance we worked so hard on. I regret not planning a better strategy to say goodbye to people the next morning, we didn’t have time for a full brunch but SOMETHING would have been nice.
Other than that, we had an amazing wedding where the regrets only came after and I was able to relax and enjoy every minute of it, so I guess I can’t really complain!